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Book Review: From the Living Room to the Bedroom: 6 Steps to True Intimacy and Sexual Abundance

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All couples experience issues with and questions about intimacy, whether they are at the beginning of their relationship or entering later years of a committed partnership. Reaching a balance that works for each individual and accounts appropriately for both sexual and emotional investment is a science. In fact, in their newest book on couples’ intimacy, certified sex therapists Drs. Bill and Ginger Bercaw explained that attaining and maintaining intimacy with a partner requires a skill set that few of us were given any sort of training in, and moreover, any training we do have is acquired through exposure to mainstream media outlets and celebrity gossip.

In hopes of offering couples a less Hollywood-centric, more scientific perspective of relationships, the doctors’ book is titled “From the Living Room to the Bedroom: 6 Steps to True Intimacy and Sexual Abundance”. It focuses on the importance of integrating sexual intimacy with emotional intimacy, and asserting that your bedroom experience will not be rewarding if you cannot also comfortably or joyfully exist together in non-sexual realms (such as the living room). Their outline offers both concrete actions that couples can take to repair a disintegrating situation, as well as more theoretical discussion of what it means to be intimate, why shared existence is important, and how a healthy relationship impacts one’s general health.

Their advice is based on the premise that in order to avoid the disillusionment or “state of mutual dissatisfaction or indifference” that so many people experience after being in a long-term, monogamous relationship, couples should explore what they call sexual abundance--the practice of being intimate in different contexts and at a variety of levels. They encourage individuals to foster positive, healthy outlooks on themselves and in their own lives, allowing for “inter-dependence” within a relationship. Inter-dependence is basically the happy medium between relying too heavily on another person for pleasure and withholding too much of yourself from a partner.

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