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Can Women Truly Enjoy Sex Without Being in Love?

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Can women truly enjoy sex without love? The simple answer is a big fat YES, depending on the individual and circumstances.

However, this answer is still widely debated. That's because women have always been portrayed as being emotional, romantic creatures who crave marriage and commitment and shy away from sex especially when it’s considered casual.

Of course, it’s hard to scientifically determine the answer to this question. Many people can’t even agree on what love or intimacy mean specifically, and each individual person is going to have different preferences.

However, one 2011 study from University of Michigan has attempted to break away from our preconceived notion.

Researchers concluded that when stigma and social constraints are removed from women, they are just as likely to want to engage in casual sex as men, which means sex without romantic love/attachment.

The problem that many women have is that there is still a stigma against women who engage in casual sex. For example, women may be afraid of “slut-shaming” if they accept offers for casual sex, according to the study.

Also, women are thought to be choosier in casual sex partners. But that’s also because men are brought up socially to be the aggressor, so they tend to pursue females more often than women pursuing men for casual sex.

As a result, women tend to be approached more often than men and as a result are choosier.

In addition, women were just as likely as men to accept casual sex offers when the pursuer was considered highly attractive, or the pursuer was a close friend who was thought to be a great lover.

“To me, this says that women don't seek out intimacy without love (casual sex) because there is a social stigma attached to doing so,” said Taylor Stokes, a sexuality blogger with the website www.freeyourv.com.

“That doesn't mean they don't enjoy it, it just means they are afraid of being stigmatized for enjoying it.”

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