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Real Men Do Not Cheat--An Editorial

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The month of May’s evening news was filled with infidelity headlines. Arnold Schwarzenegger and Dominique Strauss-Kahn officially inducted themselves into the "infidelity hall-of-fame." Other members greeting Schwarzenegger and Strauss-Kahn included: Eliot Spitzer, Tiger Woods, Jesse James, former President Bill Clinton and former Senator John Edwards.

All of these men have respectable jobs, status, wealth and power. At the time of their infidelity, they were all married to smart, attractive and beautiful women.

"Men and women with power tend to have an overinflated sense of confidence which allows them to think they'll get away with bad behavior," said Dr. Oren Amitay, a Toronto-based clinical psychologist.

Adultery is immune to the size of your paycheck. For example, a study from Cornell University stated "men who depend on their wives or girlfriends for financial stability are five times more likely to cheat than men who are not dependent."

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a therapist from The Family Institute at Northwestern University stated in an interview, “He may turn away from the marriage because he feels like he’s failing in that provider role, and he may seek that ego boost elsewhere.”

One very sad statistic from an infidelity study claimed 60 percent of married men cheat on their wives.

Marriage counselor, M. Gary Neuman said, "For men, the issue is about winning."

Like many of you, I am tired of hearing about men behaving badly. These men make headlines for creating havoc in their marriages and family life. They do not think or care about the long -term consequences of their actions. Those consequences may include destroying a relationship with their spouse and family.

No one wins in an affair. It is a lose-lose situation for all parties involved. The long reaching tentacles of infidelity create pain and anguish to the spouse, children and even the adulteress.

In some cultures, it is status to maintain a wife and a mistress. Committing adultery is emotional abuse.

If you think your husband is going to tell you about an affair, think again.

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