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Reigniting the Spark after Having a Baby - It Is Possible

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Being new parents can completely alter a couple’s life, not to mention their love life. In addition, hormonal changes can greatly affect a woman’s sexual desire after having a baby. Doctors recommend waiting at least six weeks before resuming sexual intercourse. A woman’s body needs time to heal.

For one, the vagina can be stretched and tender after childbirth. Plus, new moms may deal with vaginal discharge from the blood and leftover uterine lining from their pregnancy.

After childbirth, a woman’s hormones are thrown into a tailspin, as levels of estrogen and progesterone decrease considerably.

This affects a couple’s intimacy because estrogen plays a key role in a woman’s sexual arousal. It increases vaginal lubrication and blood flow to the genitals. Furthermore, the vaginal tissue may be inflamed, less elastic and thinner, which can cause more painful intercourse and vaginal bleeding.

So, how can you reignite that spark with your partner again after having kids?

Couples may want to consider Fiera™ for help at this stage. The sexual wellness product is uniquely designed to warm up a woman’s body and mind for sex. Designed for “before-play,” Fiera provides gentle suction and stimulation to get blood flowing and improve lubrication.

Fiera is hands-free and worn on the clitoral region for five to fifteen minutes prior to sex. While Fiera is not intended to produce orgasms, it can be used to prepare you for a more intimate sexual experience with your partner.

Sexual intercourse is just one way to reengage your relationship after childbirth. Here are more tips to reignite the spark after baby comes into the picture.

1. Show each other affection.

Write and hide love notes or other simple items for each other. These acts of kindness and love shouldn’t take too much time or effort. The goal is reminding each other of the love and affection you feel.

2. Schedule date nights.

This doesn’t always have to be an evening out. Make time for each other when your baby is asleep. Or start with a simple coffee date which evolves to dinner and a movie. The goal: make time with your partner a priority.

3. Clean up together.

Just because a baby takes up a lot of your time, it doesn't mean you can't share simple acts of intimacy. Instead of taking turns in the shower, clean up together before baby wakes up.

4. Get the whole family out of the house.

You could walk outside or inside a mall. A change of location, and simply leaving your familiar household for a bit, can work wonders for your entire family.

5. Every once in a while, spend time apart.

It may seem counter intuitive to reigniting the spark in your relationship, but everyone needs some time to themselves. Take a few hours to spend time alone or with friends. You’ll feel more recharged and refreshed when you return to your family.

6. Take time to talk to each other every day.

Even if you just have a few minutes, use them to talk about your days - something other than the baby. During these conversations, give your partner your complete attention.

It’s inevitable that your relationship will change once a baby comes, but following these tips may help reignite the spark that started it all.

Let Fiera help get your mind and body in the mood, and warm up your intimate relationship after having a baby. Follow @fieraforher for special discounts: https://twitter.com/fieraforher

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