Facebook Pixel

Relationship or Not: Is This the Right Question?

Rate This

There comes a time in every person’s life when he or she will start to feel that “feeling.” You know, that “feeling” that causes your stomach to swarm with butterflies, your palms to sweat, and your heart to beat so fast you’re sure it’s going to leap out of your chest. This “feeling,” or most often to referred to as attraction, happens to everyone eventually. It’s an inevitable part of life. But what is the best way to approach this stage when it comes?

Some people chose to be by themselves while others cannot stand the thought of being without a mate. Both options have pros and cons. Let’s look at a few:

Pros of being single:

-Come and go freely
-No commitment
-More dating options
-No unnecessary drama

Cons of being single:

-Romantic holidays are a bust
-Lack of intimacy
-The dreaded “party for one” outings

Relationships have positives and negatives as well.

Pros of being in a relationship:

-Possible life-long commitments
-Emotional stimulation

Cons of being in a relationship:

-Incompatible differences
-Possible heartbreaks, i.e., infidelity, break ups, trust issues

So, there is a good and a bad side to both paths in life. But which one is better to take? According to the most recent U.S. Census, 92 million Americans 18 years old and over are unmarried. Fifty-four percent of them are women. The American Community Survey, also published by the U.S. Census Bureau, reported that there are 60.3 million married American couples.

So what is the final verdict? Get into a relationship? Or continue to fly solo? In my opinion, it’s not the relationship classification, or lack thereof, that is most important; it is happiness. A woman can have an abundance of joy in her marriage and a man can be equally as content eating dinner alone. On the other hand, there are just as many miserable singles as there are people who have someone. What it comes down to is being happy, no matter who you are or aren’t with. So I say, chose wisely and be happy in whatever decision you make.

Add a Comment5 Comments

EmpowHER Guest

I agree...that article shed NO NEW LIGHT on the topic. Absolute drivel & a total waste of time. UGH....

July 25, 2010 - 8:26am
EmpowHER Guest
Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Couldn't have been a complete waste of time since you felt the need to comment.

July 25, 2010 - 6:38pm
EmpowHER Guest

I think the author has a point. Being happy is what matters in the end not the titles of singlr oe married.

July 22, 2010 - 3:43pm
EmpowHER Guest

Everyone wants to need a relationship with one person everyday. Why? Why are we brainwashed with thoughts of one person to be with? We are NOT I repeat NOT mano creatures. We need different people and situations and temptations and all of it in our life. The only marriages that last and last are of those that decide to just see it through. You can see it through by remaining friends with your partner choices. We are all of the same mass and we want to try it all. Why is that so wrong???? Don't run out of energy for life and settle for the boring... Try new people and relationships and know that it too as all things will run it's coarse. Why run it into the ground????

July 22, 2010 - 12:13pm
EmpowHER Guest

ok that didn't help AT ALL lol

July 22, 2010 - 12:09pm
Enter the characters shown in the image.
By submitting this form, you agree to EmpowHER's terms of service and privacy policy
Add a Comment

We value and respect our HERWriters' experiences, but everyone is different. Many of our writers are speaking from personal experience, and what's worked for them may not work for you. Their articles are not a substitute for medical advice, although we hope you can gain knowledge from their insight.

Sex & Relationships

Get Email Updates

Resource Centers

Sex & Relationships Guide

HERWriter Guide

Have a question? We're here to help. Ask the Community.


Health Newsletter

Receive the latest and greatest in women's health and wellness from EmpowHER - for free!