It is completely natural for people--even those in committed relationships--to change and evolve over time as they mature, and learn of new interests. However, it is unhealthy to assume going into a commitment that you or your partner will change an unsavory behavior once you are bonded by co-habitation or marriage.
When dating, you are “trying on” a person to see if you fit with them. If your relationship is mutually beneficial, and you have good communication, you can make it through life’s ups and downs. It’s not always easy and often can take some work. But it can get even more complicated when one partner has a bad habit or bad behavior. In those cases, you may want to consider if this person is truly the right match for you; check yourself, before you wreck yourself.
Every relationship has “hot buttons”, be it the toilet seat (up or down?), or finances (who will manage the money?). So it’s important to first decide what you can live with, and work out the ground rules in any relationship before heading down the aisle, or deciding to let it linger on long-term. Be honest, and forthcoming for a happier connection.
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