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What to Do When Your Man Withdraws from you Sexually

By Alison Beaver
 
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People change when they are in relationships. Many of these changes are hopefully considered improvements; however, some women feel that they have become so "wrapped up" in this one person, and so determined to make their relationship work and succeed like it is "supposed" to or "meant to", that they are unsure if it has become more of a habit and something to fix, rather than an equal partnership with an equally invested partner.

Here are what other women have said about their relationships, who have "lost themselves" in trying to change/fix the lack of physical intimacy:

Losing Yourself (for the “good” of the relationship):

  • I have become so wrapped up in why my man does not want me, that I have lost all confidence and that is wrong. He has his own issues, and I have added to them with my lack of self-esteem.
  • I think I love him more because I'm longing for him all the time; its not balanced love.
  • I love this guy so much, and I know its not worth losing yourself and your self worth. Sometimes we make a person TOO important to us.
  • Most men want to be with someone who is interesting, fun, smart and attractive. If you have no self-esteem left because your entire being is wrapped up in this one person....your best qualities will not be shining through, and you may not be bringing out his best qualities, either. If all you bring to the relationship is low self-esteem (and blaming him for it!), this is probably all you are going to receive in return. Do you want a guy who is looking for a woman with low-self-esteem, or do you want to be with someone who continually helps you grow, as they grow themselves?
  • Stop trying to change yourself to fit what you think he needs/wants, or to make him like you or find you attractive or have sex with you. Finding the right person is not about proving to yourself that you can get this guy, get him figured out or get him to give you attention. If the relationship does not work naturally, with you being you, it is not the right relationship.

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Thank You!! Just what I need to read and now!! Good night :)

March 26, 2011 - 9:51pm
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