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12 Sex Mistakes Men Make

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Neither men nor women are perfect when it comes to sex. Both are guilty of sexual gaffes.

The following are common mistakes men make in the bedroom.

Avoiding them may help them become great lovers.

Mistake #1: Assuming If They’re Ready for Sex, She’s Ready for Sex.
Sex expert Tracey Cox told MSNBC, men get aroused much quicker. Women take time. This is the single, biggest mistake even experienced male lovers make. They underestimate how long women take to orgasm.

Mistake #2: “I Know How to Please a Woman.”
WebMD wrote men often assume the way they learned to please one woman works for all women. Not true. What feels amazing to one may do nothing for another.

Mistake #3: Thinking Foreplay Starts in the Bedroom.
Women enjoy romance and seduction, said Examiner.com so it’s important for a man to warm her up before heading to the bedroom.

Mistake #4: Not Talking About Sex.
WebMD reported some couples don't talk to each other about sex because they don't have the words. If it's hard for your partner to say what she wants sexually, ask specific, not open-ended, questions.

Mistake #5: The "Get It Done" Mind-Set.
WebMD said men tend to break down sex into steps -- erection, foreplay, penetration -- aimed at achieving orgasm.

Mistake #6: Not Knowing about Her Need to be Naughty.
Cox told MSNBC, women can be just as naughty as men. A recent study proved women are more aroused by explicit fantasies than romantic ones.

Mistake #7: Not Getting That Relationship Issues Affect Sex.
WebMD wrote men may wonder why they’re unhappy with sex and not realize it’s related to how he and his partner are getting along. Donaghue said, "When you have sex, all of your relationship issues show up."

Mistake #8: Going South Too Soon.
Men often think it’s about starting right away with oral sex, said Examiner.com. Slow down! Most women prefer to be aroused before heading south.

Mistake #9: Too Much Direct Stimulation on the Clitoris.
WebMD wrote that for many women, the glans of the clitoris is actually too sensitive to touch. Instead, they prefer stimulation on the internal body of the clitoris that branches behind the labia.

Mistake #10: Ignoring the Clitoris.
Fox News reported more than 70 percent of women experience clitoral orgasm when it comes to maximum reaction, so men need to make sure they’re not ignoring the clitoris.

Mistake # 11: Gaining Weight and Still Thinking You're Attractive.
Weight fluctuations are one thing, but don’t let yourself go completely, Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright, a sex educator, told FoxNews.

Mistake #12: Treating Sex Like Porn.
Remember porn is fantasy, not reality, said Examiner.com. Expecting her to act like a porn star is simply not fair.

Sources:

"The biggest sex mistakes men and women make - Relationships - TODAY.com." TODAY.com: Matt Lauer, Ann Curry, Al Roker, Natalie Morales - TODAY show video, news, recipes, health, pets. N.p., n.d. Web. 30 Apr. 2012. http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/20955254/ns/today-relationships/t/biggest-sex-mistakes-men-women-make

Altmix, Charles. "Top 10 sexual mistakes made by men - Indianapolis Marriage and Sex | Examiner.com." Welcome to Examiner.com | Examiner.com. N.p., n.d. Web. 3 May. 2012.
http://www.examiner.com/article/top-10-sexual-mistakes-made-by-men

"6 Sex Mistakes You're Making." Men's Health Magazine : Men's Guide to Fitness, Health, Weight Loss, Nutrition, Sex, Style and Guy Wisdom. N.p., n.d. Web. 3 May 2012. http://www.menshealth.com/mhlists/have_better_sex/index.php

Downs, MPH, Martin. "Sex: 7 Mistakes Men Make." WebMD Men's Health Center - Find men's health topics and information. N.p., n.d. Web. 3 May 2012. http://men.webmd.com/features/7-sex-mistakes-men-make

Fulbright, Yvonne K.. "FOXSexpert: The Top 10 Sex Mistakes That Men Make | Fox News." Fox News - Breaking News Updates | Latest News Headlines | Photos & News Videos. N.p., n.d. Web. 3 May 2012. http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,352520,00.html

Strovny, David. "9 Mistakes To Avoid In Bed - AskMen." AskMen - Men's Online Magazine. N.p., n.d. Web. 3 May 2012. http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_200/210_love_tip.html

Reviewed May 4, 2012
by Michele Blacksberg RN
Edited by Jody Smith

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