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8 Tips for Using Your Vibrator the First Time

By Hannah Cutts
 
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As a follow-up to my previous article on picking the vibrator that is best for you, I thought it was logical to continue with information on using the vibrator once it is in your possession. This list is meant to alleviate any anxiety you may feel at introducing batteries to your sex life, walking you through any hesitance and assuring you that you aren’t alone in whatever sensation – whether elation, embarrassment or something else completely – you may encounter. Furthermore, vibrators can be used both as a self-pleasure tool and to enhance your sexual relations with a partner. Thus, I have divided this list into two sections, with the first six tips pertaining to solo-usage and the last two aimed at the shared experience. Enjoy! And please submit your own tips for beginners below too! (I know some of you out there are experts.)

1. Set the mood.
Ensure that you have some privacy and time. Find yourself a comfortable space free of people, technology, or things that might interrupt. Indulge in the little things that generally get you “in the mood”; music, dim lights, porn, chocolate – whatever you need to begin feeling sexy and safe.

2. Begin manually.
Warm up your erogenous zones with your own fingers. Not only will this smooth your transition to the more intense buzzing of a vibrator, but it will also re-familiarize you with your personal anatomy. Pinpoint your clitoris, map out your vulval lips, explore your vagina – re-discover what feels good.

3. Do a vibrator test-run.
Before allowing contact between your sensitive areas and your toy, run your vibrator through its paces. If it has multiple speeds/settings, allow it to rest on each level for a few seconds, familiarizing yourself with the different feels and sounds they each inspire, perhaps allowing the vibrator to buzz against your hand as a first step.

4. Establish preliminary contact.
On the lowest speed, slowly allow your vibrator to head towards more responsive anatomical ground, whether it is your inner thighs or your vaginal lips. Get comfortable with this feeling before gently guiding the toy to explore different areas.

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Anonymous

Hannah you did a awesome job explaining how to use a vibrator. There are a lot of women who can benefit from this information. I also write articles about sex, dating and relationship at http://pinkintimacy.com Thanks for the knowledgeable information.

April 12, 2013 - 2:17pm
jbid

If you have a sensitive clit, do NOT put a strong vibrator directly on it. Unfortunately, I used a a strong vibrator on my favorite super-sensitive spot. I had an abrupt strong orgasm after a few seconds before I even had a chance to get excited, but I think the vibrator ripped a surface nerve because that spot -- which had been a favorite for years -- became numb and that delicious sensitivity never returned. I can barely feel anything there ever since that day. Very sad.

September 3, 2012 - 4:40pm
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Anonymous

Hi, im a first time vibrator user aswell :) thank you for the tips it fely really great. My ass almost bursted open, and yeah, im a man <3

September 3, 2012 - 11:00am
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Anonymous

so sarah was like how do you use a vibrator and i was like google it so then we did and we found this page and read it we think we're throwing out now but before we do sarah had a geat time last night her vaginal fluids came out she had it on high speed i myself decided to try it out (i am a male) and it made my night with sarah

July 4, 2012 - 10:50am
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Anonymous

Good instruction. Very useful step by step. This site covers additional vibrator instructions and new vibrators recently available: http://sexuality-news.blogspot.com/

March 26, 2012 - 9:21am
sallyroth

Loved your article. I would like to share my experience since I am a first-time vibrator user as of 6 months ago. My boyfriend, "as a joke", bought me a Vibrator and I was reluctant to use it until he insisted on using it with me. All I can say is WOW!! The Vibrator is a little expensive but it is well worth it!
(Comments edited and links to commercial sites removed by EmpowHER Moderator.)

November 30, 2010 - 5:25pm
Hannah Cutts (reply to sallyroth)

Thanks very much for sharing, sallyroth!

I am so glad your shared vibrator experience was a good one! I hope now you have been able to explore the excitement of solo-vibrator use as well as partner play. Getting over the initial anxiety of using a new toy is the hardest part, but I'm sure you'll agree that once you make the leap, you don't look back!

Hannah

December 4, 2010 - 3:57am
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