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Are Sex Toys A Legitimate Part of Woman's Sex Life? - Dr. Klein (VIDEO)

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Sex therapist and Marriage Counselor Dr. Marty Klein explains whether sex toys are a valid part of a woman's sex life.

Dr. Klein:
So, what is included in a healthy woman’s sex life? What is included? Well, we would say that her relationship to her own body; that is important. We would say how she feels about the people that she is being sexual with, that would be important. Another question is her interest in having a clean bed instead of crackers in the bed. Is that at a legitimate interest, her desire to have the window closed or the window open, her desire to have privacy.

People have conditions and different people have different conditions about what makes the environment an appropriate environment in which to have enjoyable sex. Sex toys are just another aspect of the environment and some people like them and some people do not; some people want them and some people do not. I think that whatever allows people to express their sexuality and experience it in ways that make them feel okay, I think that is legitimate and I think it will be hard to make a different argument.

It would be hard to say that, you know, it is okay to wear lingerie in bed, but it not okay to wear socks in bed; that it is okay to want the window closed, but it is not okay to want to use a vibrator. I mean, either we are going to say that people own their own sexuality and can express it anyway they like or we are going to say that somehow or other there are these objective rules that own your sexuality or god owns your sexuality, and I think that is really the wrong direction to go in. So, I think the sex toys are a great part of people’s sexual arrangement to the extent that they want to use them.

Now some guys, they will say “Oh if you have a vibrator, what you need me for.” Well, the answer to that is very simple. “Until they invented vibrator that hugs and kisses and says I love you and says umm I love the way you smell and says I am so glad we are here together” and really means it, then we need your partner.

Dr. Klein, Ph.D.
Over Dr. Klein's 24-year career as a marriage counselor, sex therapist & author, he's continually called attention to the social conditions that make people feel guilty, confused, scared, and hopeless about their sexual feelings and relationships.

Dr. Klein is also the host of a sexual health show called Ask Me Anything, which airs on the EmpowHer Network. Dr. Klein is the author of five books, including, "Ask Me Anything: Dr. Klein Answers the Sex Questions You'd Love to Ask."

View More Dr. Klein Videos:
http://www.empowher.com/users/dr-marty-klein

Visit Dr. Klein at sexed.org

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