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AUDIO: Dr. Marty Klein: Should I Ask My Boyfriend About His Previous Sexual Relationships, Even Though It Might Upset Me?

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No sex or relationship question is too embarrassing because it's time to ask EmpowHer's sexuality expert, Dr. Marty Klein, anything.

Michelle King Robson:
Dr. Klein, lots of women have questions like the woman who asks you, “Dear Dr. Klein, I get really upset whenever my boyfriend mentions any previous girlfriends or things he did with them sexually. And yet I am so curious when he starts mentioning his sexual history, I can’t help but want to know, but then I get really sad and jealous afterwards and probably dwell on it far too much. Would it be better just to not know or ask about his history?”

Dr. Marty Klein:
Well, I don’t know. I mean, you are really conflicted, aren’t you? I mean, you want to know stuff, but you don’t want to have feelings about the stuff that you know, and you want the excitement without maybe feeling upset. That’s pretty hard to do. In this life, it’s easy to like chocolate, and it’s not hard to lose weight; it’s just hard to do both at the same time. So I am not so sure what to advise you.

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