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The Biggest Turn Offs For Women

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Ask ten different women what turns them off when it comes to men and you will most likely get several different answers. It is a very subjective topic. However thanks to some informal polling, we have some of women’s biggest turn offs.

Poor Grooming Habits and Bad Breath
Men who don’t pay attention to their hygiene turn off women. If a guy can't make an effort for a woman, she will look elsewhere.

Too Much Cologne
Smelling good is important and can be very sexy. Our clarion call to men with a heavy hand: one squirt only!

Being Ignored
Being ignored is one of the main things that turn off women. From day one, women expect partners to be attentive. Most women judge how important they are by the amount of attention they receive from their partner.

Low Self Esteem
Having no self esteem also is a big turnoff. If a man doesn’t think he has anything going for himself, why should a woman to feel differently?

The Wannabe
Women are appalled by men who tell tall tales so loudly everyone can hear him. Almost every woman has encountered the man who inflates his experiences. Women find this behavior disgusting.

The Narcissist
Men who glorify themselves and their accomplishments are truly boring. A woman sitting across the table listening to a man gab about himself nonstop is usually not impressed.

Preoccupation with Sex
Whether it is a first date or a 10-year marriage, women do not want to feel as though sex is all men want from them. If a man’s interest is only switched on when he is sexually aroused and then switched off after intimacy, it turns off women.

Despite what women accomplish and contribute to society, there are still men who act as if they are the superior sex. Whatever the chauvinist behavior, it never fails to be a turn off for women.

Paying Too Much Attention to Other Women
One of the top turn-offs for women is men who constantly check out other women. Men, who ogle other women and comment on their physical attributes, do not to appeal to women. It is impolite and offensive.

Acting like a cheapskate turns off women.

Add a Comment6 Comments

I agree with the list, and can probably add another list of things that are turn-off's.

I also think that Susan hit the nail on the head with her definition of "cheapskate". Clearly a man that cannot afford luxuries of a high-end restaurant couldn't possibly be considered a cheapskate unless he is pretending to have more just to impress a woman.

I hope no man takes this list as a personal attack to them, by no means is anyone perfect and we know that even men with half of these "turn-off" qualities have girlfriends or wives who accept them that way--just as men accept women with their faults.

April 25, 2010 - 6:58am
EmpowHER Guest
Anonymous (reply to Rosa Cabrera RN)

Here's the problem: Men are constantly caught in between looking too cheap and trying to buy a woman's affection. It's a lose-lose situation. Think about it from his point of view.

January 29, 2012 - 9:57pm
EmpowHER Guest

I think everyone is entitled to one's opinion about all the above. As each woman is different, the laundry list of turnoff's listed above, may be a 'no go' for some women although there are other women that don't care so much about specific things.

In my opinion, it is all about how you treat me. If you treat me as I would treat you, I am sold. Nobody is perfect but I think this article is just showing certain things that turn certain women off. This is not considered 10 things ALL women hate.

April 24, 2010 - 9:35am
HERWriter Guide (reply to Anonymous)

I think "cheapskate" is someone who can afford to spend some money but won't. And not because he is trying to save some money but because he just won't.

For example, I went on a first date with someone a really long time ago. He paid for half, I paid for half. Since he asked me out, I thought that was cheap. He did the same on our second date.

On our third and final date (hey I was young, what did I know?!), he said he "forgot his wallet" and gave me the bill to pay. He lived a 10 minute walk from where we were and for some reason, didn't get up and go home to get it.

I refused any more dates. He was too expensive!

And THAT is a cheapskate. It made me very careful of men and their wallets. I've dated guys who just don't have much cash and I was happy to stay home and rent a movie. Aside from the first few dates (I expect men to pay the first few times if they are asking me out) I'm fine to pay half or pick up the bill for a lunch date and just pay it without any fanfare. But I find cheapskate men (again, this is NOT the same as someone struggling) to be "cheap" in many other aspects of his life.

I'm going to add in "bad kisser" here too. Imagine leaning forward for a first kiss, only to find someone's tongue cleaning your lungs! Ugh!

I'm sure men also have a list but this particular one was a woman's list and is certainly not all-inclusive or means all women feel this way!

April 24, 2010 - 11:37am
EmpowHER Guest

"don't be a cheapskate"
This is bullshit, what if a man can't AFFORD some places? Surely he's allowed to complain then that the prices are too high, if a guy does the best he can and takes her to a less expensive place then a woman shouldn't be turned off by the fact he complained about a separate places prices.

April 24, 2010 - 8:42am
(reply to Anonymous)

Then dont get your self a high maintnance girl, because high maintnance girls usually like to go out to Exspensive places. so find your self someone thats not just using u for money and perks :)

October 7, 2010 - 2:06pm
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