Sometimes we have simultaneous obligations/plans. We want to have that date we've been looking forward to all month with the new "friend" we've been talking to tri-weekly and we also want to attend our company's annual holiday party. After all, the invitation does specify that you are, plus one, invited and well, wouldn't it be nice to be yourself, plus one? So you propose the idea and he goes for it, after all, he's in the old holiday spirit and you show up and it's:
a) Awkward because you don't know each other that well and people keep asking questions;
b) Really fun because it's distracting you from first date jitters and your friends and co-workers are in great moods;
c) boring and somewhat embarrassing as you didn't know a couple of drinks would make Sarah from the business department begin shouting 'Strip Poker!';
d) all of the above; or
e) none of the above.
Whether its an office holiday party or a family or friend holiday party, bringing a first date can be a mixture of fun, excitement, awkward moments and either a great or not so great idea depending on the circumstances. Here are some helpful questions to ask yourself before bringing your first date to a holiday party:
'Is my date somewhat outgoing, i.e. into meeting new people and having silly-ish conversations with new people?'
If the answer is "yes" or "I'm pretty sure he will go for that," then you have a good foundation. If the answer is a long hesitation, a "no" or, "I doubt it," then, by all means, grab a quiet dinner and stay away from the holiday party!
Another is: "Will the people at the party get very very curious and ask us a lot of questions about our relationship?" Again, be honest with yourself. Of course, there's no way of predicting every possible outcome and scenario, but if it seems there's a good chance you've got some gossip-happy office mates, friends, or family that's dying to see you hooked up permanently, you might want to wait awhile to bring your date around.