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FSD: Female Sexual Dysfunction

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Myth: Women never suffer from sexual dysfunction.

Fact: Women are more often affected by sexual dysfunction than are men, 2 to 1, just like the ratio of women to men.

Even in younger women, the question of how many times a week they have sex as opposed to how many times a week they actually have an orgasm, is usually answered the same; sex—3-4 times a week, orgasm—once a week, because we are less aware of our bodies than are men.

Men have a penis, and they are fascinated by the appendage from birth; often touching or playing with it as young boys and then, well, they become men. Women have a clitoris and are very unaware of it until some well-thinking, well-experienced male points out that it’s there and always has been.

While we do become aware of the clitoris, we may not be aware of the many factors that contribute to a lack of arousal, or organism, due to health problems. Among the health problems that contribute to FDS are diabetes, high blood pressure, heart conditions, and mental or emotional fatigue and depression.

Another contributing factor comes with age; the dreaded big “M,” menopause. Instead of naming it menopause, they should have given it a more appropriate name “mencantgetnearthis.” Mencantgetnearthis describes every emotion and feeling that women going through the “change of life” has or possesses in her artillery of reasons why she is no longer interested in sex, and wants desperately to bite off the head of any man that comes within striking distance.

Menopause, or Mencantgetnearthis, causes night sweats, mood swings, depression, upper lip growth (oh, that one is attractive), weight gain, vaginal dryness, and a great lack of clitoral stimulus leading to a lack of ability to achieve orgasm.

If you can get passed the obvious—you feel fat, bloated, over-heated, sexless, and constantly annoyed—there is hope for the clitoris.

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Hello Anonymous,

If your problem is one that you fear is a physical problem, then you should see a physician. The physician/patient relationship is protected, and nothing that you tell your physician can be given out freely to anyone. Not surprisingly, women find it easier to talk with a female GYN. They will understand with more clarity and be able to identify more quickly with less explanation.

If the problem stems from a psychological objective, then there will surely be someone who is having similar problems and be able to post a reply. Many women, especially in my age range, feel locked up and fear open discussions on sexually related problems. My daughters have opened my eyes to things that I once thought of as kinky or divergent sexual activity, only to find that there are many things that are common within sexual relationships. Post a comment about it and let’s see if we can find a solution.

June 5, 2009 - 6:09am

My recommendation would be to first speak to your gyn. Have you tried that? If your doc is a man and you are not comfortable with that, try your local hospital and see if they have a women's center. They have doctors to choose from and perhaps even nurses to speak to. I have to do that also. Just have been putting it off. I think I know who to see, even though I need a new gyn, that's another put off for me.
hope I helped, at least a little. Val

June 4, 2009 - 9:50pm
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I have a sexual issue and I am not sure how to get help.

June 3, 2009 - 7:49pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health http://www.isswsh.org/

June 4, 2009 - 3:07pm
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