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Looking to Heat Up the Bedroom – Ten Tips for Better Sex

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Want to be a better lover? Or maybe things are just a bit stale in the bedroom. There are numerous ways to improve love making and broaden the experience with your partner. Here are just ten of them:

Tip 1: Grab your calendar.
Schedule sex. In our busy and stressful world, scheduling spontaneity can ensure your sex life stays a priority.

Tip 2: Open your mouth… to talk!
Good communication leads to great sex. Try it. Shoot for trust and openness.

Tip 3: Focus. Focus. Focus.

Stay focused on your partner and the experience of giving and receiving. Be present in the moment of each sexual encounter with all of your senses.

Tip 4: Take Care of Yourself.
The better shape you are in means the more fun you can have. Libido stays stronger as you age if you maintain good health and take care of your body

Tip 5: No More Pain.
It’s estimated a high number of women feel discomfort during sex. Women shouldn’t have to worry about a burning sensation, urinary tract infection or painful intercourse. See a doctor for help.

Tip 6: Touch Yourself.
Don't be ashamed to masturbate. It’s great to be aware of what turns you on and how good it feels to have an orgasm.

Tip 7: Variety is the spice of life.
Anything that is done, done again, and then redone becomes boring. Consider exploration and innovation in the bedroom. Talk about your fantasies. Use sex toys to spice up your love life. Alter positions you typically rely on. Introduce lubricant into your sexual routine.

Tip 8: Don’t Forget Foreplay.
Focus on foreplay. Foreplay is to sex what stretching is to a workout. It’s good to prep your body for what’s to come. Don’t fast forward through foreplay. Concentrate on kissing; caressing, stroking and massage during the warm up.

Tip 9: Look Into My Eyes.
Prolonged eye contact can increase dopamine and oxytocin – both feel-good, sexual chemicals. Practice eye contact during sex. It will intensify the experience.

Tip 10: Feedback Isn’t Just Noise on the Radio
Give your partner feedback in the form of verbal and non-verbal communication. It’s impossible to know if you’ve hit the target without some feedback.

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makes good sense- 'with it ' women still have issues here.

March 31, 2011 - 10:52am
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