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Oral Sex, Women Need To Know Messy Is Okay - Dr. Klein (VIDEO)

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Watch Sex Therapist and Marriage Counselor Dr. Marty Klein explains what women should know about messy oral sex, and why it's okay.

Dr. Klein:
Oral sex, very interesting subject. Some women, believe it or not, they think they do not taste good down there, they think they do not smell good down there, they think they do not look good down there, and my feeling is, if you do not like the way you look, smell, or taste, you should not give yourself oral sex. But if your partner says, “Honey, I love the way that you taste.” If your partner says, “Ooh! Let me get down there and have a treat for myself.” If your partner says, “I would love to get between your legs and give you a good time,” my feeling is let them, let them, let them. You know, some people like apple pies, some people do not, some people like, some people do not; some people even like ice-cream and other people do not. My feeling is how you like the way your own vulva looks or tastes or smells is really not your partner’s problem, you know.

So, apparently, it is hard for some women to really understand why their partner would want to get down there and get all slobbered up get all juicy and get all, you know, messed up in face and you know, good sex is kind of like gourmet cooking. You know, the kitchen does not have to end up messy, but it always does, and sex is full of fluids, smells, and torn sheets, and if your partner is interested in touching you in a way that you do not like, of course you should not do that. But if your partner wants put your toes up his nose and you like that or if your partner wants to play with your butt and you do not quite understand why, you know, but if you like it, let your partner do what they want. If you like what your partner is doing, do not judge whether or not it is a good thing or a bad thing. If you like what your partner wants to do, do not worry about how you look or how you sound or whether you drool.

You know, sex is one of the few places where we can go and it does not matter, it does not matter, nothing matters how you look, whether you call out to God, or the universal principle. If your partner wants to share your body by putting his or her mouth between your legs, if you like it, hey, go for it.

Dr. Klein, Ph.D.:
Dr. Marty Klein has been a marriage counselor, sex therapist & author for 28 years. He focuses on helping people understand and accept their sexuality, calling attention to the family, religious, cultural, and political issues that keep so many of us feeling guilty, confused, scared, and hopeless about our sexual feelings and relationships.

Dr. Klein is also the host of a sexual health show called Ask Me Anything, which airs on the EmpowHer Network. Dr. Klein is the author of five books, including, "Ask Me Anything: Dr. Klein Answers the Sex Questions You'd Love to Ask."

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http://www.empowher.com/users/dr-marty-klein

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