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Sex with an Uncircumcised Man

By Shaina Gaul
 
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I’ll be honest; I had to do a lot of research before sitting down to write this article. I have only come into contact with one uncircumcised penis during my short stint as a single adult woman, and it didn’t really seem to be that big of a deal at the time.

However, when it comes to uncircumcised penises, there’s more than meets the eye . Approximately 50% of men are “uncut,” which is really how the penis is meant to be in the first place (not many men outside the United States are circumcised). Circumcision originated among ancient religious populations as a way to purify man by removing the source of his sexual pleasure. This tradition has held its ground into the 21st century, which can lead to quite a bit of confusion when a woman unexpectedly comes into contact with a penis au naturale.

It may surprise you to learn that the foreskin itself, before it is separated from its owner, is extremely sensitive to pleasure. During circumcision two very important things are removed that will never grow back: the frenulum, the band near the tip of the penis that connects the foreskin with the glans, and then of course, the foreskin and all the nerve endings that go along with it.

Not only are these sources of pleasure eliminated during circumcision, but the shaft of the penis is left unprotected and slowly loses its responsiveness through a process called keratinization. In an article published in Fathering Magazine, Rio Cruz explains that “the male glans and inner foreskin, just like the clitoris and inner labia of women, are actually internal structures covered by mucous membrane that, when exposed to the air and harsh environment through circumcision, develop a tough, dry covering to protect the delicate, sensitive tissue.”

The main difference in having sex with an uncircumcised penis is that the foreskin acts as a glider of sorts, and it stays in place while the glans and shaft continue to thrust. This leads to less friction in the vagina and thus a more pleasurable experience for the female.

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Anonymous

This lady needs to meet more uncircumcised men. To state that the foreskin remains in place during sex as a "glider" is, in my case at least, totally incorrect. My foreskin rolls back as I enter my wife's vagina, allowing my (very sensitive) head to feel the inside of her to the greatest and most wonderful degree with each thrust.

July 15, 2014 - 6:03am
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Anonymous

Okay so here is my opinion. I am an American Man, 23 years old with European parents. I am uncircumcised. I am in perfect control of when i ejaculate and having control over when you finish is just a matter of learning your body. The main problem in the united states is that i would say 90% of American guys in my class were cut. and most girls in the united states have never seen or "handled one". where they wont say anything to you, it clearly used to bother girls(when i was in high school) i was a popular kid, so it did not stop much, but people spread rumors.. and i cannot tell you how many times girls would talk about an uncircumcised penis's when i was right next to them not knowing i was intact. they would say things like it looks gross! looks like a maggot, etc etc.. Doesn't make a Guy very confident in his ability to please a woman. actually it makes him feel unhappy and resentful. and believe it or not although i am happy to be an intact male, i would have been much happier and stress free in middle-highschool if i was circumcised, because of the ridicule you get if you are not (kids are cruel i guess)

Needless to say i am in a happy relationship now. since the first time we had sex she told me i was the best shes ever had (and believe me shes not the only one to say that!) though being well endowed may play a slight role, im starting to believe my foreskin has something to do with it.

i will agree that an uncircumcised man is more sensitive, and when i was first stating to have sex i was lucky to get 5 mins! but now i have learned my body and i can choose when i go! so for the skeptics saying an uncircumcised man lasts longer? false.

So in all, and i think anyone should take this into consideration, and as much as i would like to stand up for all of us uncut men out there, being uncut caused me A LOT of heart ache and pain and got me made fun of when i was younger.. and a penis being something a Man derives much of his pride from. having your made fun of (especially by girls) can be really tough. Being that i live in the united states if i could go to my parents at day one i would probably tell them to please hack it off. but seeing as how thats not going to happen and i already dealt with growing up part. i am totally fine with being uncut.

i hear more and more children are being left intact (up to 60% in some parts of the country.) so maybe in later generations things will be different.. so please take what i have to say in to consideration. all a man needs is confidence! and the rest follows

November 6, 2012 - 3:24pm
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Anonymous

I just wrote this last message in which I alluded to Prince Charles. I think I should have added the following in retrospect at the end. You know as I already said I am 59 now, but with or without a foreskin I think most of you women will perhaps agree (I have only just noticed that this would seem to be a woman's website) that there are two ways of having sexual intercourse and both may have their own validity. One is to f*** a body the other is to make love to a brain. And, all you charming women out there, as a man and at my great age it would seem that the latter alternative is so much more meaningful and so much more enjoyable because this seems to magically benefit from the incredible joy of the mutually complimentary convergence or mariage of both the brain and the body.
I don't want to sound boring but I really do believe that if one day I find such a woman then I sincerely believe that she will be able to relegate the fact that I am circumcised or not to a totally inconsequential oblivion.
You know all you lovely ladies out there, even 'dirty' old men like me who have been thinking 'dirty' during 'dirty' weekends, could already be utterly charming or better still instantly become the heaven sent Greek God of your dreams that perhaps you yourselves, even all the so-called 'sluts' and 'slag heaps' have always also dreamt about which was precisely why you were so promiscuous in the first place just like me!
In a sense we are all searching for love and the ideal relationship and I can tell you at the age of 59 that this is increasingly about not just bodily sex, but being on the same wave-length, enjoying the same mutual friends and having the same sense of humour with in my case a woman who will become my very best friend.
So please don't tell me that a woman discriminates against circumcised men or that the discovery of circumcision can potentially ruin a relationship! And please don't tell me that making love to a woman is just a purely physical sensation and not the communion of souls.

Best wishes to you all my lovelies

From the 'dirty' old man who has just 'come' clean!

October 24, 2012 - 1:04am
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Anonymous

Lets start by saying that I think the very frank information, provided in this excellent website about circumcision by so many, is highly informative and very serious, and I thank you all for your contributions and the owners of the site for enabling this to happen.
On a lighter note however, being a person who has long since lost the weight of his foreskin, I am 59 and have been circumcised according to my mother (who was very proud of the fact), by the Queen of England's doctor no less! So my first comment is that I sincerely hope that Prince Charles did not suffer the same fate as myself. But alas, if this was the case we are both like brother's who climbed the scaffold of the foreskin guillotine as babies and suffered the same circumcision fate at the same executioner's hands!
Apart from this little aside, I would like to add that as I grow older my glans would seem to have got gradually less sensitive which is not surprising I suppose, so coming takes a bit longer with age, but in my case I very much doubt if this is mentally linked to less sexual motivation which very fortunately does not seem to have changed that much bar regrettably the frequency of opportunities!

There are clearly very many traditional, religious and sanitary reasons for circumcision. But perhaps the main one is the 'cleanliness' justification and not just with the meaning that so many readers have suggested. There has been a confusion in my opinion between the risk of not remaining 'clean,' in the sense that an uncircumcised boy or man might not wash his glans enough, and the 'cleanliness' (or purity) of circumcision that is supposed to prevent, or at least discourage, young boys from indulging in what was, and still is often believed in certain circles to be the wicked sin of masturbation.

At the risk of sounding too logical, if a doctor has to cut-off a foreskin from a baby at birth for the sake of personal hygiene, then why not also surgically remove the baby's anal ring so that the child will never have to use lavatory paper! I don't live in England any more, but at 59 you could say that I am in part a refugee from an almost puritan culture where 'dirty' old men went on 'dirty' weekends and talked 'dirty' to their girl friends, many of whom might have been labelled by the righteous as an 'easy lay,' a 'slag-heap' or a 'slut'! Oh dear, we have an issue here and not just because I am now 59, but because 'wanker' wanking boys were also once, and still are frequently considered to be even more 'dirty!' I am afraid I am rather dubious about the use of this word 'dirty' in all these contexts, I do hope I am not morally depraved! I would add however, being a disgracefully happy fully qualified 'dirty old man' who 'talks dirty' during 'dirty weekends' to a beautiful sweet charming woman, at the great age 59, that the famous philosopher Lord Bertrand Russel did once say that people will always seek to prevent others from enjoying what they cannot enjoy themselves. So bad luck all you immaculately 'clean', very 'clean' talking 'clean weekender' old men!

Yes, I'm sorry my fellow circumcised friends, our foreskins were primarily executed not because evolution has not given babies the right to defend themselves by biting the surgeons hand off that held the scalpel, but for spurious reasons of morality which is why I myself was always told that masturbating would at best turn me blind! Masturbation was once, and still is in certain religions, considered to be evil or wicked and it is quite true to state that the derogatory term 'wankers' who wank of course will find this a lot more difficult without a foreskin.

The foreskin execution technique was also used by one religion in particular as a mark proving that a young man was truly a bona fide member as if this was a tattoo or like all the other countless cults or sects and orders such as free-masons who shake hands in a certain way only recognizable to other members.

Believe you me my friends, if God and/or mother nature, or just the pure secular multi-million year old evolutionary mechanism of the survival of the fittest, gave boys a foreskin then it is fitting to add myself being still a 'dirty old wanker' from time to time, that even if you are now a parent with a new born baby boy, I would very seriously advise you to let him keep it at least until he can make up his own mind! An as an objective indication, I have not personally seen any evidence yet of a hundreds of millions of grown-up men all queuing up outside the doctor's surgery clamoring to get circumcised.
Frankly, who are you to disagree with millions of years of human evolution? Who are you to proclaim that God or mother nature made a dreadful mistake by giving us foreskins in the first place! If you as a parent insist upon circumcision, I really do hope you are right because the cost could be expensive in terms of the sexual enjoyment of your son! But we're all also a bit like cooped-up battery chickens, if you've never known any different you wouldn't miss the real outside world.
Being circumcised myself from birth, I was just guessing what it might have been like to have a foreskin of course!

October 24, 2012 - 12:22am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

My dear "dirty" old man, I dare say, reading your lovely words have made me swoon. If only men like you exsisted in my inner social circle. Alas intllects of your rank seem to be a breed that does not, or is it can not, exsist in my generation. What I wouldnt give to read more of your beautifully phrased musings and know, if only in part, the man behind the word anonymous.
Most amused and delighted,
Kat
Post script: As I would say to my like minded peers
"Oh my, that man's intellegence is scary sexy!"

April 3, 2013 - 4:42am
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Anonymous

"Buffydaddy" said a few pages back:
"...or in general men who assert that their partners are not so motivated to perform oral sex on a phallus that blossoms forth an aroma somewhere between the stenches of a garbage heap or a jock strap that hasn't been cleaned in six months by an athlete"

I have to say, this is extremely unprofessional, childish and disgusting language for a urologist with several decades of experience to be using. I'd expect this stupidity from a particularly nasty 13 year old, but a middle aged medical professional? There's the pro-circ mindset for you.

October 16, 2012 - 12:36am
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Anonymous

In the Philippines, 99% of men undergo circumcision. It's more about cultural and traditional reasons. Like, if you don't don't get circumcised, you are bound to be ridiculed and teased to death by your peers, especially for young boys.

September 6, 2012 - 11:52am
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Anonymous

Has anyone made mention that the lack of sensitivity may be a good thing? Endurance in a man is what most women want, don't we ladies? I'm glad my husband has been cut and can patiently wait, and have continued pleasure before my organism.

August 1, 2012 - 12:32am
cameragirl (reply to Anonymous)

Endurance...never. Being with someone who is more sensitive means more pleasure for him which means more pleasure for me. He can last as short or long as he wants. As a woman I can say the physical attraction to and arousal to my natural aka uncut friend is overwhelming, the pull is like nothing i've ever felt in my life.most likely I believe because the pheromone releasing gland was not removed along with a foreskin. Ill never want anything else....

September 25, 2013 - 9:14pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Having just come out of a long term relationship with a man I hoped to marry, I can say that I am now thoroughly turned off to circumcised men. Though I was- and still am- incredibly attracted to him, our sex life suffered at times because there was a little voice in the back of my mind that would ask "will he ejaculate this time?" The lack of sensitivity a man feels once he has been circumcised will only get worse with time. At my best moments, I worried if I would ever be able to have children with him if we married. At my worst moments, I was terrified that I wasn't able to please him and he would eventually leave or cheat.
If you are happy with your husband and his lack of foreskin, then I wish only the best for the two of you. My experience with uncicumcised men, however, has only further enforced my belief that it's mutilation akin to the female genital torture which is now banned by law in all countries as a human rights violation. If a person wants to change their genitals, then that is their right under body autonomy and something they should be allowed to do as adults. But it's mutilation and abuse to do such a thing to a child who has no ability to say no.

November 20, 2012 - 5:35am
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