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Sex with an Uncircumcised Man

By Shaina Gaul
 
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For circumcised men who are experiencing gradual loss of sensation throughout the course of their lifetime, there actually is a process of foreskin restoration that involves the use of tape and weights (?).

So when all is said and done, you (and your partner) are actually likely to have much better sex with a penis that is uncircumcised. If you’re performing oral sex and looking for tips, just focus your efforts on the ridge just below the glans and use your hand to help the foreskin go with the flow. That's all there is to it!

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Anonymous

I am an American woman who can attest to the horrible nature of circumcision. My own brother had complications with the circumcision he had at birth, and had to have it fixed (painfully, I might add) as he was nearing puberty. Too many babies go through that for absolutely no reason. Why remove a natural, functioning organ? There is no other surgery that is justified by the same means and still legal (look up female genital mutilation, which is illegal, and look at the similar reasoning used for it and for male circumcision). News flash doctors: IT'S THE SAME THING. But I digress.

As far as my own sex life, when I became sexually active and touched a penis for the first time, I was actually shocked that there was no gliding movement. I knew nothing about circumcision at the time, and had never seen any type of penis intact or circumcised (my family is fairly conservative when it comes to sex, and I was always extremely shy about it). However, I naturally assumed there would be some type of movement of the skin on the shaft. What does that tell you? A woman who had utterly no prior knowledge of male anatomy whatsoever instinctively expected there to be movement. Since then, I have been with an intact man also, and I tell you in all honesty, intact penises are much easier. They are more sensitive, much easier to please, and more fun to play with. Sorry if that's too much info, but I'm sick of the misinformation surrounding a natural penis. Also, the story that an intact penis is dirtier than a circumcised one is complete bullshit (pardon my French). As a matter of fact, the intact penis I experienced was actually cleaner than any of the circumcised ones.

Men are supposed to have a foreskin, and any doctor who says otherwise is misinformed. In the U.S. doctors promote all kinds of propaganda to perpetuate the removal of foreskins on any man or child that has one. Moral of my story for all the ladies out there: Don't be afraid to try an intact guy. I promise you'll like it just as much if not more than a circumcised penis. Also, if you're going to have children at any point, reconsider having an integral part of their body chopped off at birth. He'll thank you later.

To all you doctors out there spreading your bullcrap on the web, answer me this: Of every animal on the face of the planet, human or otherwise, why are male human beings the ONLY creatures who have to have a part of their body amputated at birth? Hmmm?

February 23, 2011 - 8:19am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Male humans aren't the only creatures to have healthy body parts amputated at birth though. Many people also choose to chop off the tails of certain breeds of puppies, for example. But yeah, humans are the only creatures which routinely mutilate healthy infants for no real reason.

November 11, 2012 - 8:21am
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Anonymous

Wow the world is going to be such a better place now that you have explained to everyone how to give a proper blow job to a guy with foreskin. Get some morals and write about something meaningful you pig.

February 23, 2011 - 8:12am
Hugh7

@Anonymous: "I'm a 55 year old cut man and the head of my penis is so sensitive that if it were any more sensitive I would loose my load upon entry."
We often hear cut men say that (http://www.circumstitions.com/Sexuality.html#more ) - yet intact men aren't all "losing their load upon entry" - funny, that. This strongly suggests that circumcision affects sensitivity, but not in a good way. in fact circumcision forces men to rely on the sensitivity of a greatly reduced area of their penis (the frenulum, if they're lucky enough to have been left it), making it more hair-trigger. Whether this is an advantage or not can only be decided by the adult man - but when it's a detriment, it's too late.

February 23, 2011 - 12:31am
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Anonymous (reply to Hugh7)

From Dr. Buffman (Buffydaddy) EmpowHER Expert

Anonymous, I am a urologist and an expert in the field of sexual medicine. I see approximately 5,000 men each year with erectile, ejaculatory dysfunction and hormonal dysfunction or a combination of each. It is my objective opinion, after conducting face to face interviews with so many of these men, that circumcision undoubtedly does not affect sensitivity or pleasure after the healing phase of a few months. Interestingly so many careless men, without seeking expert advice, are driven to clinics that advocate circumcision and hormonal treatments to achieve the end-result of abating and or "curing" premature ejaculation.

This practice is not only archaic but borders on malpractice.

February 23, 2011 - 5:15am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Dr Buffman, the claim that circumcision does not affect sensitivity borders on idiocy.

Cutting healthy flesh off healthy bodies is the province of cosmetic surgeons, not healers.

February 25, 2011 - 9:24am
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Anonymous

Medical personnel, such as urologists, E.R. docs, labor and delivery nurses, are probably the worst people to ask about circumcision. They see only the problem cases, and then generalize their observations to the total male population. Men who have no problems with their foreskin do not seek out a urologist to tell him or her that sex with a foreskin is marvelous. I think the testimonials of healthy, intact males are of much more value than the skewed opinions provided by medical personnel who, by the way, have a financial stake in continuing the practice of circumcising as many men as possible.

February 22, 2011 - 3:50pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I think you've just hit the nail on the head there! these so called experts are purely invested in financial gain - not the health and well being of the guy and his partners.

December 15, 2012 - 2:51pm
buffydaddy (reply to Anonymous)

Not to be included in your generality of urologic opinions, I would like to voice an opinion re: circumcision of the neonate and or pediatric male.
As an Ivy-League trained specialist in urologic surgery, from a Christian-based , not Jewish-based school, it was never part of our teaching curriculum to "automatically' circumcise or to assume that each male born child required circumcision, nor are we trained to "lead" parents into thinking that this needs to be performed prior to discharge.

In most hospitals in America ( I assume this without factual knowledge), the first person that comes into contact with the new born parent(s) is the pediatrician and/or labor and delivery nurse personnel. They are trained to ask the parents if they would choose to have their child circumcised before they bring their son home. The decision does not end here as it must be agreed upon and or advocated by the performing doctor, whether the pediatrician, obstetrician, or urologist.

In my professional experience the overwhelming factors that drive a parent to have the procedure performed in the hospital are: 1) "I want my son to look like his father," 2) religious affiliation 3) to save the child from having the circumcision performed at another time (pediatrician's office).

I must admit that my own personal philosophy on the wisdom of circumcision, as a surgeon myself, have transitioned over the years. This modification in my logic stems from not only access to unbiased publications but also from my own inner thinking about the wisdom of the procedure. I must state affirmatively that this change in my thought process does not stem from anecdotal experiences from patients complaining as adults or certainly even from that pool of patients who had circumcision performed as adults and were disenchanted with their sexual experiences thereafter. This is stated as such simply, because, after 33 years of surgical experience I would be very hard-pressed to recall a single occasion that a patient complained to me that he was unhappy after he had made the decision to be "cut." This also includes patients who were circumcised at birth and I consult with in my adult clinic. I have never heard voiced from these patients that they have a concern over their sexual experiences after "comparing notes" with their uncircumcised friend.
I want to state also, in contradiction to previous posts, that I see many female partners of my patients. Never once in over thirty-three years of surgery have I heard even a single complaint that, compared to other partners historically, that they admit a level of diminished sexual fulfillment now with their "cut" sexual partner.

The rationale, as I have stated in much earlier blogs on this site to perform circumsion as an adult are: Failure after repeated conservative attempts to rectify phimosis (very tight entrapment of the preputial skin over the penile head), chronic lacerations (cuts of the foreskin) after sexual activity hampering the pleasure of the experience, and most commonly inability to maintain proper hygienic care of the tight foreskin due to inability to retract and or administer proper cleansing of the penis, resulting in chronic infection which requires multiple return visits to the MD or health care practitioner, and/or frequent circulation of this infection to their sexual partner(s) which sets up an ever-ending vicious cycle of disease. It is not uncommon for a gynecologist to recommend to the partner of their patient to seek a surgical opinion after multiple attempts at ameliorating the condition fails with conservative treatment.

Finally, the wisdom of propagating religious myths re: need for circumcision I believe is slowly changing to the conservative side.

I must also admit that my comments are not universally shared nor represent the majority of health care providers, but represent those of my opinion.

February 23, 2011 - 6:02am
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Anonymous

Thank you so much for this Articles...
If she is Orthodox, she won't be having sex with a man to whom she is not married and she will most likely not be marrying a man who is not a Jew. But the moral issue is about monogamy and the cultural issue is about marrying another Jew. If she is honoring neither of those then there is no special rule about whether a man is circumcised.

January 3, 2011 - 2:24am
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