Sexuality: Coming Out Of The Dusty Closet
In case you haven't figured out my stance on sex education yet, I am all about creating an integrated human being. Sexuality is a part of us - with all of its unique expressions. We may try to put it in the closet and only take it out when it's dark and we think that no one is looking, but somehow it will escape and there will be yet another Republican Senator with his, ah......pants in his hand! This story is as old as time and it's not going away. Perhaps it is time for us to look at the human glass of sexuality in a way that is more holistic and accepting (like they are starting to do in the UK - more on that later).
Yes, Bill Clinton DID have sex with that woman in the oval office - lots of people would have. But instead of feeling empathy toward the human condition we like to chuckle at THEIR predicament of being caught.
Oh it's all so juicy when other people are caught being sexual, isn't it? It's so naughty! And then we get to feel outrage! Sometimes I wonder if the outrage is simply jealousy. How come they get to have all of this sexual fun? Ha! They got caught! See what will happen if you do THAT!
Or perhaps it is the relief that many people feel because it wasn't them that got caught this time!
You see - you are not supposed to get caught being sexual out of the confines of what society thinks is morally sexual. Yes, we do have this special brand of sexuality that we consider "Morally Sexual," and that is where it all gets so confusing and conflated.
Sexuality and the social confines that surround it is a fluid thing. We all have so many different attitudes about sexuality and what sexual expression has to say about morality and who we are as human beings. According to sex educator Pamela Madsen (that would be me!), "Sexuality is an integral part of who we are as human beings - but our sexuality and how we express it does not define us - it is simply a part of who we are - it is problematic to view our sexuality as the measure of our morality." Yet that is what we have done through the ages.
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