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Sex Therapist and Marriage Counselor Dr. Marty Klein explains his thoughts on a common question; What should a woman do to increase sexual pleasure? Dr. Klein says do what YOU like.
Dr. Klein:
So should you shave? Should you wax? Should you wear lingerie? Should you pierce your nipples? Lot of women ask me what they should do and I will not tell them. There are a lot of questions I will answer, but what you should do is not one of those questions. Should you shave or wax? The answer is you should do whatever you like. Should you wear lingerie? If it makes you feel silly, you should not do it. Should you pierce your nipples? If you think that is excited, you should do it, with a qualified professional of course. A lot of people want to know what is the right thing to do in sex? A lot of woman, you know, their partners says, “Ooh, honey do this, ooh honey do that” and my feeling is if your partner would like it and you would like it, great. But sometimes your partner wants you to do something like shave your pubic hair into a little heart shape or wax your eyebrows, you know whatever it is. If you do not want to do it, I think the appropriate answer is, “You know, honey, I would not do it” and if your partner says, “All the other girls do it. What is wrong with you?” That is not a sex problem, that is relationship problem and that is something where we get to talk about that outside the bedroom, “Look, you know, I do not like to be pressured. I do not like to be compared with other woman. I am unique. I am myself. I am willing to do all these things here. That one thing I just do not want to do.” So, should you shave or should you wax. I’ll tell you the honest truth, I do not care. What you should do is what you feel comfortable with and what makes you feel good about yourself and if you want to experiment with something like shaving and then you do not like it, then you should stop doing it and if your partner says, “Oh, wait, wait, wait do not stop doing it.” You say well I tried it. I did not like it. The amazing thing about sex is that if you are so multidimensional you will never run out and new things to try. You will never run out of new things to do. You will never run out of new things to talk about. You will never run out of experiments that you can do together or by yourself. So, if there is one thing that you do not feel like doing whether it is oral sex, whether it is shaving, whether it is wearing a funny blue hat during sex, you know. If there is one thing that you do not want to do, then do not do it and if your partner says, “Oh, wait, wait, wait, that is the one thing in the whole world that I really got to have,” the answer is gee you need to experience a vocabulary a little bit. You do not want to go through the world just eating one food your whole life. You do not want to go through the world thinking that if I do not have oral sex I will die. Oral sex is great. If you want to have shaved pubic area, that is fine. But if your partner says, “Oh, what I want is the one thing in the world that I have to have in order to make sex worth while,” that is not about sex. That is about a very limited imagination and your partner is lucky that they found you so that you can say, “Well, you know, we have got the opportunity here to expand your horizons.”
About Dr. Klein, Ph.D.:
Dr. Marty Klein has been a marriage counselor, sex therapist & author for 28 years. He focuses on helping people understand and accept their sexuality, calling attention to the family, religious, cultural, and political issues that keep so many of us feeling guilty, confused, scared, and hopeless about our sexual feelings and relationships.
Dr. Klein is also the host of a sexual health show called Ask Me Anything, which airs on the EmpowHer Network.Dr. Klein is the author of five books, including, "Ask Me Anything: Dr. Klein Answers the Sex Questions You'd Love to Ask."
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