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Top Ten Ways to Be Sexy and Single

 
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You don't need a partner to feel sexy, look sultry, sound erotic and exude animal magnetism. In fact, embracing these parts of yourself even in times of singleness will not only bolster your confidence and self esteem, it will also lead you on a profound journey of self-discovery and self knowledge.

By loving yourself in all ways, you will create and enhance your full, rich life without a partner. Should the right person come along, you will both benefit from your knowledge of your body, your sexual tastes and preferences, your familiarity with your own fantasy life, and your command of your senses.

So, for those times when you are flying solo, here are some spicy thoughts:

1. Buy a new outfit for yourself; yes, even if you have to save to do it, indulge in a new blouse, skirt, and even a jacket. Make the sensory experience of the clothes matter to you. If you love velvet, buy something that is smooth and refined; if silk is your "mmmmmm, ahhhh," spend a few extra dollars and feel it wrapping around your bare shoulders with exquisite gentility.

2. Spend time in lingerie. Whether its something you own or something you really need to go out and get, raid Victoria's Closet, turn on some dance music, mellow music, or the television (or bask in the silence) and really enjoy it. Since there's no one around, you can pose for yourself, exploring the beauty of your size, shape and sexiness, judgment and insecurity-free. Really try and love yourself without worrying about what needs fixing. You may find you adore what you see.

3. Take yourself out on a romantic date. Bring a novel and your sunglasses. Pretend you're a character in a French film. Go out to dinner someplace intimate and cozy, explaining nothing. Eat decadent food. Then go to a movie. Sink down in the seat and bask in the enjoyment of your own thoughts, your own entertainment. Afterwards, go to a cafe and have a chocolate flavored cappuccino. Ahhhh...

4. Read Anais Nin. This author has been famous for years for her erotic stories and scenarios. Tasteful, poetic, wild and womanly, reading erotica can sometimes take us places no visual imagery ever will.

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