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What’s the Deal with Sex Dreams?

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I think most of us will admit to an erotic dream or two in our adult lifetimes. Kind of a nice way to wake up, I say. But what’s behind sex dreams?

Erotic dreams can range from sexy and wild to just plain weird and seemingly unexplainable. Experts say your subconscious is most likely trying to tell you something. It is the interpretation that can be the hard part. Dreams stem from the constant activity in our subconscious minds. And since sex is one of the most powerful human drives, it makes sense that many dreams have a sexual content. If we harbor secret urges to do certain things and act certain ways, those urges are very likely to make an appearance during our dreams when our conscious mind can’t suppress them.

Sex dreams are common and natural. Dream researchers and experts say they shouldn’t bother us, but rather be seen as a chance for introspection and the opportunity to take a deeper look at what is really being represented in that dream. If a woman is dreaming of making love to a stranger in a strange place, it could mean she is looking for something new in her relationship.

Erotic dreams can offer numerous benefits. They can open our minds (and eyes) to different ways to express passion and pleasure. Discussing sex dreams with your partner may help create a deeper connection and a stronger, more satisfying relationship.

They can also deliver solutions to personal or sexual issues that are causing stress. For some women, sorting through what happens in a dream, may allow the subconscious to take care of some unfinished business that hasn’t been dealt with during waking hours. Sex dreams can help confront issues and emotions that have been hidden away.

Most sex dreams are fun and should be enjoyed. However, some people have very upsetting sex dreams about disturbing subjects as incest, rape or violence. If these types of dreams are persistent, there may be a psychological reason behind it.

Understandably women can be concerned by these dreams and may want to explore why they are repeatedly having these dreams. Dream experts say it is best to consult a therapist with an analytic background. Women should not be afraid or embarrassed to ask if a therapist has experience in interpreting dreams. Talking to an expert about your sex dreams may unlock a deep-seated mystery or just open the door for more pleasure in life.

Stacy Lloyd is a writer and video producer in Phoenix, Arizona. A former television news journalist, she covered stories around the world. Currently, she produces corporate and non-profit videos and broadcast programming.

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