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Why Do People Have Sex Dreams?

By Stacy Lloyd HERWriter
 
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Sex dreams can be erotic and intriguing or just plain weird. If your sex dreams leave you baffled, you're not alone.

We dream because of the constant intense activity in our subconscious minds, said NetDoctor.

And since sex is one of the most powerful human drives, it's not surprising that many dreams have sexual content.

If we have deep urges, they are likely to manifest in our dreams – where our consciences can’t stop them.

There are differences in opinion when it comes to sex dream interpretation.

Sex dreams could represent aspects of ourselves we’ve been ignoring or neglecting, wrote DivineCaroline.com. Or it might be simply be due to the fact that we haven’t had sex in a while and our libidos are reminding us.

Carol L. Cummings, author of "The Sex of Your Dreams: Erotic Dreams and Their Hidden Meanings," told DivineCaroline.com that erotic dreams “tend to be based on wish fulfillment.” She believes they are healthy ways to release sexual energy we can’t act on in real life because it would be inappropriate.

What about when people have sex dreams about someone they’re not attracted to like a boss, co-worker or friend?

DivineCaroline.com wrote in Gillian Holloway’s "The Complete Dream Book," offering three potential reasons why we dream about people we find unattractive.

The first reason could be that the person we dream about could represent characteristics we’re trying to develop in our own personalities.

A second possibility is the dreamer is making a bad choice.

The last reason is you’re entering into another kind of partnership with your dream subject, such as a business relationship.

Other sex dreams can include an ex-lover or complete stranger.

EverydayHealth.com said that according to Ian Wallace, a dream psychologist, if you’re dreaming about an ex-lover, it could mean you’re unknowingly repeating bad habits from your failed relationship.

Ladies Home Journal said however, that an occasional glimpse of a past love is usually nothing more than mental vacation from everyday life.

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To dream about sex represents the integration or merging of different aspects of your personality in waking life experience. If you are the one having sex this most likely reflects a positive or pleasurable experience that you are having in waking life. Whomever you have sex with represents a quality your noticing in yourself or a situation that you are experiencing.

For example, if you have sex with a celebrity it may symbolize a quality you see in that celebrity coming out of you or enjoying an activity you associate with that celebrity. [Source: DreamBible.com]

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