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Woman Can't Orgasm During Sex, It This A Sexual Dysfunction? - Dr. Klein (VIDEO)

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Watch Sex Therapist and Marriage Counselor Dr. Marty Klein explain if not being to reach orgasm during sex could be a sexual dysfunction.

Dr Klein:
Historically, many people thought that a normal heterosexual woman would, of course, climax from penis-vagina intercourse. It turns out that most American women simply do not. On the other hand, most American women who have orgasms have them from clitoral stimulation; having their clitoris stimulated either by their own hand, their partner’s hand, their partner’s mouth, a vibrator, running water, a teddy bear, a pillow.

So, it is really unfortunate that so many women believe that there is a right way, that there is one normal way to have an orgasm. You know, my feeling as a clinician is whatever ways your body orgasms, enjoy it, and n general, we really want to get away from the idea that there are normal ways for people’s bodies to behave during sex because it is all culturally determined.

Now, if the predominant way that heterosexual couples had sex with man rubbing their testicles against women’s clitoris', well, then man would be pre-orgasmic and woman would be coming all over the place. I think what we really need to underline for most people is that in women the predominant sexual organ is not the vagina; it is the clitoris. The vagina kind of comes along for the ride. There are lots of reasons to have penis-vagina intercourse. Orgasm for women is typically not one of them. So, when a woman comes to me as a clinician saying "You got to help me doc, I do not climax." My very first question is, “So, what are you doing that you think ought to result in a climax?” and if she says, “intercourse” I will say well let us slow down here. “Do you know how to have an orgasm in other ways?” and if she says "no," I say well you know, what if investigate some of those other ways first, then we can come back to the whole penis-vagina intercourse thing because that is for most women the least likely to result in an orgasm, if that is what a woman wants.

About Dr. Klein, Ph.D.:
Dr. Marty Klein has been a marriage counselor, sex therapist, author for 28 years. He focuses on helping people understand and accept their sexuality, calling attention to the family, religious, cultural, and political issues that keep so many of us feeling guilty, confused, scared, and hopeless about our sexual feelings and relationships.
Dr. Klein is also the host of a sexual health show called Ask Me Anything, which airs on the EmpowHer Network. Dr. Klein is the author of five books, including, "Ask Me Anything: Dr. Klein Answers the Sex Questions You'd Love to Ask."

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