So far, three people in my family have had strokes: my father and two of my uncles. The ordeals we faced in our house were sometimes unbearable. Strokes usually leave the patients with partial or complete paralysis. Family members go through a lot with these victims. Paraplegic patients are especially hard to be taken care of since they have to depend on others for every move they make including eating, turning in bed from side to side or bathing. They need special attention 24 hours a day physically and emotionally. Family members become targets for these patients to take their frustrations of getting through simple tasks. Care givers are hard to keep since they have to be on the front line of defense. Feelings of helplessness, not being able to express their emotions, and physical disability make these patients become depressed and angry at times.
Most male patients are known to get strokes right after their retirement while female patients in their 60's following menopause. After working for number of years and being physically active, most men cannot bear with the thought of sitting at home idle. They do not know what to do with themselves with all this ample time they have in their hands all of a sudden. Feeling of worthlessness with out a job makes them depressed. Unless they plan ahead of time what to do with their spare time these men feel they are unproductive. Many men live with the mind set that staying at home is a woman's job not theirs. They just cannot imagine themselves cooking, cleaning the house or doing the household chores. These kinds of jobs are boring for men and waste of time. Some men do adjust to the fact that they now have enough time to do what they always wanted to do in life other than a regular job. These men engage themselves with activities such as golf, tennis, running, swimming, meeting friends at a coffee shop, reading the newspapers, and discussing world politics. They plan trips to local attractions or travel around the world. They financially settle themselves ahead of times so they have enough money to enjoy what life has to offer.