I have an adult son with Aspergers. He is very successful at work, shares a big house with two friends, but his relationship with me is awful.
My son is aware he has Aspergers but does not want to know the details of his condition with regard to relationships.
He tries to control me, has high anxiety, can go into paranoia if he misinterprets what I'm trying to say.
We may have a pleasant evening, then 2 days later when I give him a quick call
(I rarely call him and the moon had a rainbow around it, I thought he might like to see it). instead of being polite, he starts swearing at me and tells me I am overstepping my boundaries, I know on Friday nights he is out and about and I should not try to sabotage his private life by calling about something he has absolutely no @!x?!!!@! interest in hearing about!
His abuse has become intolerable, he thinks I'm out to get him, mess up his life, it is just awful.
He said I scare the @?!!@?! out of him because he can never trust what I'm going to do. He puts down who I am in his effort to control me.
It has upset me so much, I love him dearly, but it has got to the point that I cannot stand his abuse and his belief that I am this awful person all the time.
He is not on any kind of medication, although he was several years back.
He has told his roommates he has Aspergers but if I mention it, he gets extremely angry.
He is so high functioning, great socially, great sense of humor. Sometimes he can go for several days with no asperger symptoms whatsoever, it is easy to forget he has it until all of a sudden he hits the roof.
He only does this with me.
It has been a heartbreaking journey for me, he's treated me abominably for many years.
He has now told me he does not want me in his life anymore. and he has refused to communicate. He is quite determined.
I have had to accept there is absolutely nothing I can do about it.
It is with a heavy heart I know I won't hear from him, but it is also a relief
I will not be subjected to his swearing and abusive comments anymore.
My heart goes out to anyone who has a loved one with Aspergers.
It is often a difficult and heartbreaking road to travel.
Is anyone dealing with an adult they love (in my case my son) who has Aspergers?
He is out on his own, very successful at his job, very high functioning.
Unfortunately he is very abusive to me ...
September 6, 2012 - 6:04pm