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10 Questions to Ask Yourself if You Aren't Happy

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In the last few months I have thought a lot about happiness. More specifically, I have been thinking about how to get it and how to keep it as part of my daily life.

It has become such an important topic for me because happiness has been eluding me of late. Relationship changes, financial changes and practice changes have all descended on me at the same time and I have let them get the better of me.

I realize that these changes made me feel insecure and worried about my future. The more I concentrated on the uncertainty, the more upset I became.

I have been seeking a way to get out of my funk and embrace happiness again.

One of the most important concepts my mentors and spiritual teachers have been sharing with me is that happiness is a choice. When we are in a space where we don’t feel happy, we have to choose to be happy.

At first I couldn’t even wrap my head around the idea of choosing to be happy, I thought either I feel happy or I don’t. I didn't think I had a choice.

Being happy is a choice! It is a practice and it is a skill that we can work on and improve every day. It starts with asking small questions about what you can do to be happy in the moment. As you have more happy moments in the day, you will start to be happy more of the time.

"What makes me happy?"can be a daunting question but when you break it down into smaller bites it is easier to get to happy.

If you are not happy, here are some questions to ask yourself.

1) What small acts during the day bring a smile to my face?

Start with something concrete, like seeing flowers on your table or in your yard. Go out and look at them for a minute and just smile.

2) How can I get moving?

Movement or exercise is one of the treatments that can elevate mood. It has been shown to help alleviate depression. So get moving in any way that feels good to you. Even five minutes can make a difference.

20 Questions You Need To Ask Yourself If You’re Still Not Happy. Elitedaily.com. 16 March 2016.

Practicing Acts of Kindness. Psychologytoday.com 16 March 2016.

TEDx | The Science of Happiness | Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo. TEDx Naperville. 16 March 2016.

Want To Be Happier? 10 Questions To Ask Yourself Right Now How to boost your mood, STAT. self.com. 16 March 2016. 


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Excellent questions to ask yourself! You can be happy and it doesn't have to be one more item on the to-do list! Diana Fletcher, author of Happy on Purpose Daily Messages of Empowerment and Joy for Women,revised and expanded edition

March 25, 2016 - 6:28am

Funny you should mention journaling in the "Happiness" article. My dear friend Jennifer Love (check her out, Founder of One More Woman.) We were just having this discussion at dinner the other night. JLove is doing the "5 Minute Journal" every morning before her first cup of tea. I asked her if they had an online version because I need my coffee and my computer when I wake up... And, not necessarily in that order! This morning, JLove sent me a link to their brand new app bit.ly/fiveminapp. Perfect timing. Now that made me happy. I've already downloaded it. The price didn't make me very happy but I look at it as one Starbucks coffee. You can't put a price on your happiness, right? Something to be said about the song, Don't Worry, Be Happy. Happiness is a choice. I choose to be happy and you can too!! Keep smiling, Michelle King Robson

March 24, 2016 - 5:22pm

Good post. I learn something totally new and challenging on websites I stumbleupon everyday.
It's always interesting to read content from other writers and use something from other web sites.

March 22, 2016 - 9:07am
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