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A Nanny Murders Two Children -- A Mother Faces Blame: Editorial

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By now, many of us know of the horrendous murders of two beautiful young children in their Manhattan apartment, and the mother who discovered their bodies and watched as the perpetrator stabbed herself as she walked in.

It's hard to find words to describe how this mother, with her third child alongside, must have felt -- and will feel forever. It's hard because it has never happened to me, nor most other parents and we are beyond thankful for this.

The story has been plastered all over the newspapers and the internet. A mom takes her three-year-old child to swimming lessons, leaving her other children in the hands of trusted nanny who was very well-known to her and who had worked with them for two years.

The family had visited the nanny's homeland. They'd stayed with her family.

In general, they had enjoyed the close bond that is formed between parents and the person charged with taking care of that which is most precious to them -- their children.

Dad, an entertainment executive, was traveling for work and on his way home. The nanny was due to meet Mom when swim class ended with the other children so they could proceed on to dance lessons.

Nanny did not show so Mom went home with her child after the swim lesson to see what had happened. As we now know, what had happened was of nightmare proportions. And the father faced his own devastation when met off the plane by police and informed that his children had been murdered.

The destruction of a happy family is beyond imagination.

But what struck me hard, aside from the murders, was the crushing criticism the mother has faced in the media by readers of the story -- people like you and me.

What did the Mom expect - leaving her kids with a stranger?

This is what happens when you underpay illegals who care for your kids.

Mothers who don't work and tool around Manhattan at their leisure, leaving their kids in the care of a lunatic can only expect something like this to happen.

If Mom cared, she would have been home with her kids instead of abandoning them to the cheaply-paid help.

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EmpowHER Guest

Susan, thank you for writing this thoughtful article. The callous cruelty that has been spewed out by strangers towards this grieving woman at her darkest hour has truly taken my breath away. It hadn't occurred to me that this may have been the case no matter what the specifics of her home/work choices. Again and again, it strikes me as bizarre that those issues and judgments are raised at all in the face of the horrors of this crime.

October 31, 2012 - 8:43am
EmpowHER Guest

I think people are so quick to point figures when it comes to stories of children being hurt or killed because they're afraid. They're terrified the same thing could happen to them and so they grasp for reasons why it could not. "This would never happen to me. I stay at home with the kids!" The same sort of nasty comments appear after any story about a child being injured or killed, be it an auto accident, a drowning, a murder, etc. People can't stand the thought that horrible things happens, that they don't have always have control, so they're quick to blame. Of course, some people are self-righteous a*holes, but I like to think they're the minority.

October 31, 2012 - 6:29am
EmpowHER Guest

We don't know what really went on. Why are you being equally harsh on people that are skeptical? There has been zero comment from the nanny. For all we know... It could have been the nanny or the mother or even a third party. Do you think if it was anybody but the nanny, they would talk. The nanny has a slit throat... Maybe self-inflicted, maybe not? Why should we trust what the mother is saying? Has the nanny admitted to it? I am not being mean. Just skeptical, stranger things have transpired. When it comes to an awful crime like this... Usually the mother kills more than the father or other caregivers. Fathers and caregivers have a different "out" than the mother, they can usually just "leave" a stressful situation.

Again... I am not being mean, just skeptical. I am not going to take a side when only one person is claiming to know what happened. Who knows? Maybe their was a third party. Let's just wait till all the facts come out and everybody speaks. I don't trust anybody. Justice should be blind.

October 30, 2012 - 11:16am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Maybe you are not trying to be mean, but it makes me crazy that after the trauma this mother has endured, she is now being insulted by the casual suggestions across the Internet that she may have committed the crime. If you read anything about the story you will see how highly unlikely that is. It's not just her word against the nanny's -- she was witnessed returning to the building, and the kids had already been suffering and bleeding from their wounds by the time she returned. I suppose anything is possible, but in this case it seems particularly callous to insist on implicating the mother in this crime. Maybe the best way to demonstrate skepticism is to hold our speculations until the professionals have finished their work. Let's have a little sensitivity and respect for those poor children and their family.

October 31, 2012 - 8:01am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

One party caught up in this heinous crime has spoken, the other party has not. Indictments make the front page, acquittals get the back page.

October 31, 2012 - 8:31pm
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