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How Growing up With an Alcoholic Parent Shaped Me as an Adult

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"Children of alcoholics are two to four times more likely than other children to become addicted to alcohol themselves,” states the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA).

They are much more likely to develop a problem than children who don't grow up in that environment.

There are members of my extended family that also have struggled with alcohol or other addictions as well.

Children of alcoholics are more likely to end up with alcohol-dependent partners as well. According to WebMD.com, “research shows that daughters of alcoholics are more likely to marry alcoholic men.”

“If we have learned as children to love someone with addiction, we will tend to unconsciously seek that out,” said Patricia O'Gorman, PhD, a psychologist in Saranac Lake, New York.

Just because all of this had an impact on us as we were growing up does it have to affect us as adults?

It does only if we are unaware of the patterns we fall into. I have spent time noticing when these behaviors have cropped up in me. When they do, I get help to change my thoughts and behaviors so they don’t impact my social and intimate relationships.

With the right support and understanding, none of these characteristics have to impact your adult relationships and success in life. Seek help if you notice that you are struggling with issues of esteem, anxiety or depression, or any mental or emotional issue.

RUN — don’t walk to your medical professional if you find that you are in an unhealthy relationship with alcohol. If you can’t live a day or week without it, you need immediate attention.

Do it for yourself and do it for the people in your life that are being impacted by your behaviors, especially your children.

Live Vibrantly,
Dr. Dae
Dr. Daemon Jones

Dr. Dae's website: www.HealthyDaes.com

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1) Adult Children of Alcoholics. WebMD.com. 12 April 2016.

2) Alcoholism and Alcohol Abuse. Nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus .12 April 2016.

3) Why should I attend Alateen? Al-anon.org. 12 April 2016.

4) Children of Alcoholics Community Action Guide. The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services’ Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA). Retrieved April 28, 2016.

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