Hi,
I found some information for you on the website, "Go Ask Alice!", which is associated with Columbia University. The male's issue is no orgasm with intercourse but with oral sex. I think the solution can work for you and your husband as well.
"Your inability to ejaculate during vaginal intercourse could also be directly related to something happening in your relationship, or with you personally. Common reasons why men have problems ejaculating during intercourse are: anxiety about their sexual performance, feeling unconnected to their partner, or personal issues of being preoccupied, or feeling vulnerable.
One suggestion for making a smooth transition to ejaculating during intercourse is to have your partner stimulate you manually or orally until the point that you are close to having an orgasm. Then, quickly insert your penis into her vagina and continue the sexual act until you orgasm. You may also want to try to figure out what happens during oral sex that makes you orgasm, and try to incorporate it into vaginal intercourse. During oral sex, is your partner moving slowly, and gently? Do you experience deeper penetration with oral sex? Do you fantasize differently with oral sex? Whatever it is, try to emulate those sensations during intercourse. Talk to your partner, try to figure this out and experiment together. She may also have some great suggestions! "
Hope this helps,
Maryann
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Hi,
September 20, 2011 - 3:40pmI found some information for you on the website, "Go Ask Alice!", which is associated with Columbia University. The male's issue is no orgasm with intercourse but with oral sex. I think the solution can work for you and your husband as well.
"Your inability to ejaculate during vaginal intercourse could also be directly related to something happening in your relationship, or with you personally. Common reasons why men have problems ejaculating during intercourse are: anxiety about their sexual performance, feeling unconnected to their partner, or personal issues of being preoccupied, or feeling vulnerable.
One suggestion for making a smooth transition to ejaculating during intercourse is to have your partner stimulate you manually or orally until the point that you are close to having an orgasm. Then, quickly insert your penis into her vagina and continue the sexual act until you orgasm. You may also want to try to figure out what happens during oral sex that makes you orgasm, and try to incorporate it into vaginal intercourse. During oral sex, is your partner moving slowly, and gently? Do you experience deeper penetration with oral sex? Do you fantasize differently with oral sex? Whatever it is, try to emulate those sensations during intercourse. Talk to your partner, try to figure this out and experiment together. She may also have some great suggestions! "
Hope this helps,
Maryann
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