Sorry to hear about your painful first experience. When did you try to have sex again? Immediately after your first time? or did you give yourself time to heal?
It sounds as though the pain you felt was mainly related to the fact that he may have torn something when he attempted to penetrate you. If this is the case, then you should wait before attempting to have sex again. You should also keep an eye on it in case an infection develops (you'll notice a very foul smell). When you do feel like you have healed (which should at least be 2-3 weeks after the incident) then it is very common to feel fear or even panic due to the anticipation of feeling pain again. You MUST tell your fiance to be gentle and take his time and it may even be wise to consider using a water-based lubricant for the first couple of times...until you are comfortable having sex without it.
If you try this and continue experiencing an intense amount of pain, please consult with your doctor.
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Hi Anon,
Sorry to hear about your painful first experience. When did you try to have sex again? Immediately after your first time? or did you give yourself time to heal?
It sounds as though the pain you felt was mainly related to the fact that he may have torn something when he attempted to penetrate you. If this is the case, then you should wait before attempting to have sex again. You should also keep an eye on it in case an infection develops (you'll notice a very foul smell). When you do feel like you have healed (which should at least be 2-3 weeks after the incident) then it is very common to feel fear or even panic due to the anticipation of feeling pain again. You MUST tell your fiance to be gentle and take his time and it may even be wise to consider using a water-based lubricant for the first couple of times...until you are comfortable having sex without it.
If you try this and continue experiencing an intense amount of pain, please consult with your doctor.
Please keep us posted,
Rosa
September 25, 2011 - 4:21pmThis Comment
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