What wonderful discussion about such an important topic to Women. Unfortunately, I can talk to this topic with great experience. I have battled my weight my entire life. When I was in my early 20's I was only 20 to 30 pounds over my goal weight but it might as well of been 200 pounds as I let it affect my confidence and self image. I looked in the mirror and saw some one who was much more overweight mentally than I really was. I think this was due to my own pyschie beating myself up mentally every day. I was allowing this 20 pounds to overshadow every part of my life, and career-it was really debilitating. In my mid 20's I started to read many books on the subject of self-esteem which literally changed my life. I don't even remember the titles of the books now but they had a profound effect on the rest of my life. It was the most liberating and empowering moment in my life. To finally understand those 20 or 30 pounds were just that, extra weight,and that it should not detract from who I was as a person. It's just weight which is just a small part of the total person. I think we are far too focused on weight and appearance. I think equally important are things like, a positive outlook, good sense humor,intelligence,compassion,flexibility and learning to be truly happy. To illustrate this I think back on instances when I have encountered a really beautiful women or man who never smiled, was very negative, had no sense of humor and thinking good god I would hate to spend too much time with this person. Conversely I think about people who I have encountered who are overweight, average looking but expressed a zest for life, made me laugh, had interesting things to say and I wanted to be around them vs. the latter. Come the end of the day we should not put all of our energy into worrying only about our weight but instead work on our self-image as we are because it typically effects so much in our lives:how we project our selves and how people truly perceive us.
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What wonderful discussion about such an important topic to Women. Unfortunately, I can talk to this topic with great experience. I have battled my weight my entire life. When I was in my early 20's I was only 20 to 30 pounds over my goal weight but it might as well of been 200 pounds as I let it affect my confidence and self image. I looked in the mirror and saw some one who was much more overweight mentally than I really was. I think this was due to my own pyschie beating myself up mentally every day. I was allowing this 20 pounds to overshadow every part of my life, and career-it was really debilitating. In my mid 20's I started to read many books on the subject of self-esteem which literally changed my life. I don't even remember the titles of the books now but they had a profound effect on the rest of my life. It was the most liberating and empowering moment in my life. To finally understand those 20 or 30 pounds were just that, extra weight,and that it should not detract from who I was as a person. It's just weight which is just a small part of the total person. I think we are far too focused on weight and appearance. I think equally important are things like, a positive outlook, good sense humor,intelligence,compassion,flexibility and learning to be truly happy. To illustrate this I think back on instances when I have encountered a really beautiful women or man who never smiled, was very negative, had no sense of humor and thinking good god I would hate to spend too much time with this person. Conversely I think about people who I have encountered who are overweight, average looking but expressed a zest for life, made me laugh, had interesting things to say and I wanted to be around them vs. the latter. Come the end of the day we should not put all of our energy into worrying only about our weight but instead work on our self-image as we are because it typically effects so much in our lives:how we project our selves and how people truly perceive us.
April 27, 2008 - 12:22pmThis Comment
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