DEPRESSED

i actually have my own account for my job. i hope it doesnt go that far, but i wont fall apart if it does. i have a sister here that would let me stay with her, so i would have a place to go. all he needs to do is get a full time job. hopefully the VA is building soon so he should get work. i appriciate all the caring that come with these replies. thanks girls...

I have read all your comments and Susan's as well. One thing that strikes me is that you need to have money set aside in your name only, so that when or if you go your separate ways you will have funds to support yourself and he cannot take it from you. I truly feel for you and your situation. I was there once but my husband kicked me out and I had nothing! It was very difficult to get started again. Thank God I had a career I could depend on and did not have to worry about finding work. It was living and day care I had to worry about. Be looking for somewhere to go so you can be prepared and are not left stranded. Your depression will clear up when your family situation changes, so there is hope. It is very difficult to stand up to an angry, screaming man and you should not have to subject yourself to that. I know you don't want to leave, but if you are prepared and do so, then you will feel better. I'll be keeping you in my prayers.

thanks Susan... i just needed someone to tell this to. usually i talk to my daughter but she's 7 months pregnant and really doesnt need to hear this. i will keep you informed. iam not being stupid, he knows i won't take crap anymore and he also knows i have no problem going it on my own. it just feels good to tell someone. have a good weekend... Becca

he is a excellant carpenter and when he works he does great work, but...he wants to do things with his life that dont involve working for other people. he created a domino game piece that looks good, but no manufacture will buy it. he wont let it go. he wanted to build homes for vets on our back property (which isnt ours anymore, we lost it in forclosure) but that is just unrealistic. you need money for that. i want to discuss things with him and he gets very angry very fast. he actually started yelling at me once and he didnt know my son was home. that didnt turn out too well. i feel bad for him. i love him but dont like him very well. i've worked for the same trauma center for the past 31 years and do ok for myself, but i just cant stand my husband not working. iam a hard worker, always have been. he has no one. he loves my grandson (2 yrs) and i know he would be lost without me or my family but i cant stand it anymore. i feel sad and very lonely all the time. dont want to bother my kids (all grown) even tho they know things aren't well. iam so confused, hurt and i hurt for him but i can't stand his attitude towards me anymore. especially when he gets angry when i want to talk. i have no voice in my own home, which is on the forclosure block soon if he doesnt get a job soon. i really dont know what to do anymore.