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how do you know if your perimenapausal?

By Anonymous October 27, 2011 - 7:18am
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hi i just turned 44, and for the past say year to year and a half ive just been moody,my sexy drive is very low,,, i talked to my doctor about it and she said no cause im still haveing my period every month pretty regular,,, only off by one day either way....mostly 6/7 day durartion moderate flow. last year i went t the dr.and she said i had a mild case of anxiety and put me on buspar for a month and it didnt change the symptoms at all.im always on edge ans defensive ,i also see the my words are sometimesare hard to gt together,or will comeout weird i really dont think its anxiety ,,,,maybe at the time being as i lost my dad back then but not no more .there are also days where i feel extrememly hot almost like someones holding a torch to my bottom.( lol) my concern is the moody defensive feeling all the time .i also feel tired alot of the time i have seasonal allergies and asthma (but mild)ok welllook forward to hear your ideas on it thank you christine

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no im not been off it for a year so its not side effects everyone i talk to says its perimenapausal or hormonal problems but im not sure and my dr says cause normal periods its not....thanx had all theses symptoms before buspar and when was on (only for a month)....so im really curios

October 27, 2011 - 4:33pm
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Has your doctor checked your hormone levels? Or is he just saying that you aren't going through perimenopause because you still get your periods?

November 1, 2011 - 6:57am
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Anonymous (reply to Rosa Cabrera RN)

dear rosa no they havent . and yes its cause im still haveing reg periods... i just am thinking seriously that its some hormonal problem cause of the lack of sex drive i use to have a very high sex drive....and
the crabbieness for no reason i dont feel angry just very defenssive at all times well some one told me to try progestirone cream (HAVENT YET ALITTLE SCEPTICAL) dont knoe enough about the cream the person said if its not hormones wont do anything to me ,is this true?ok well look forward to hearing from u thank u so much

November 1, 2011 - 7:56am
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Before trying the Progesterone cream, ask your doctor for some blood work that includes testing your hormone levels. I don't think it is fair to you to just be brushed off as if nothing is wrong.

Please keep us posted with your results.


November 1, 2011 - 8:07am
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Anonymous (reply to Rosa Cabrera RN)

deasr rosa

i have asked for blood work several times and she said everything looks normal and she see no need to check the hormone levels everything looks fine i think im gonna find a new dr ,or even ask my gyno dr to check im in the middle of switching them now so when i get an appt. we will see but can u expierence hormone problems and still have reg cycle

November 1, 2011 - 8:13am

Hi Christine,

Welcome and thank you for your question!

Are you still currently on Buspar? Side Effects include:
upset stomach
stomach pain
dry mouth
difficulty sleeping

In response to your question about the symptoms of Perimenopause, they include:
Changes in your menstrual Cycle
Hot Flashes
Sleep Disturbances
Lumpy Breasts and/or breast tenderness
Worsening PMS
Change in Libido
Vaginal Dryness

You can read more about Perimenopause here: https://www.empowher.com/perimenopause/content/symptoms-perimenopause

And here'sa great article by Dr. Deborah Rouse-Raines: https://www.empowher.com/menopause/content/you-are-not-crazy%E2%80%A6just-perimenopausal

Hope this helps,


October 27, 2011 - 8:43am
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