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I am 18 years old and I always become turned on. I have a boyfriend but I have the tendency to get turned on by looking at girls.

By Anonymous June 24, 2011 - 9:04pm
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Is this normal? My boyfriend knows about it but he feels insufficient. Don't get me wrong, I love my boyfriend but I am not sure how I can change this? Can this be changed.

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Hi Anon,

Thanks for posting! If I understand correctly, you're bisexual and easily get turned on by girls even though you have a boyfriend.
It's easy to see why your boyfriend feels like he isn't good enough to satisfy you completely. Put yourself in his shoes-- If he was constantly thinking about other girls even though you're his girlfriend- how would that make you feel?

"Changing" this is all really a matter of maturity-- we are all human and we all see beautiful women and handsome men out on the streets all the time. That doesn't mean we will cheat, it doesn't mean we will point out that sexy person to our significant other, and it certainly doesn't mean that we will leave our partner. We look, quietly appreciate that persons good looks, and in a matter of a seconds it's over and we move on.

If you feel like you're not ready to settle down with one person because you still find yourself thinking about being with others, then do your boyfriend and yourself a favor and make a decision about your relationship. It's not an easy choice but it really isn't fair to him to feel like he's not enough to satisfy your sexual desires.

Wishing you the best,


June 25, 2011 - 7:05am
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