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I am a 21 year old female with no sex drive. I love my boyfriend, I WANT to be intimate with him, but once the time comes for intercourse, I am dry as a desert downstairs and confused because I know I want him. I have low libido for a young woman. It is like there is no communication between my brain and my body parts. We've talked this through (because we've both had problems as of late), and both of us have come to the conclusion that we are tired and our diets are different as of late because we are not at home (actually on the other side of the country for a few more weeks). I understand diet can affect sex-drive but my diet has probably improved since being here, but I can admit that I've been pretty tired. Also, in the past month, I started bleeding mid-cycle even though I take the pill consistently. I visited the doctor and everything was normal, and I will start a new pill in a week or two once this cycle is done. I just don't know what to do. We want each other so badly, but I wasn't ready dowstairs when he was definitely ready. What can I do? Why is there low libido in young women?
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thank you! i think u might be right! i dont feel so weird after all now thank u :)
November 24, 2010 - 5:53pmThis Comment
Hi... I saw one of you comments so I thought you might be a good person to ask for some advice. Okay so I'm 21 and I have been with my boyfriend for going on a year now. At first he wanted sex all the time and I wasn't really into it. Then after awhile now I want it like all the time and he usually never wants to do it. So I talked to him about it and he said it was because I don't get into it and I never start it. So here's my question... Do you have any advice on how to start sex. I am shy so I want it to be something easy. Like how do I let him know I want to have sex without telling him
August 23, 2010 - 10:21amThis Comment
I have the same problem but I am not taking any pill. I am 24 years old and I do not have any sex drive.
February 3, 2010 - 7:50pmThis Comment
you all need to hook up with someone that knows what they're doing.
November 21, 2010 - 6:38pmThis Comment
my bf deff knows what there doing it has nothing to do with his performance its the best i've ever had thats why im so conserned
November 24, 2010 - 5:50pmThis Comment
Hi anon,
Can you tell us more about your situation?
Having a low or absent sex drive can be attributed to many things, and it is best to "rule out" the obvious first.
1. Do you currently have sexual partner(s)? If so, can you tell us more about this?
2. Do you have any medical conditions, or are you taking any medications?
3. How do you feel about your body in general? How do you feel about others seeing your body during intimate moments?
Have you always felt that you have an absent sex drive, or has someone commented negatively on your sex drive?
Are you able to become sexually aroused, including emotionally, mentally and physically?
The process of sexual arousal begins in our brains, and has as much to do with our thinking and feeling as it does the physical processes of arousal in our bodies. Knowing if you are concerned with not feeling or wanting to be intimate with someone, or if you are wanting to be but your body is not becoming physically aroused, are two important distinctions.
We look forward to hearing back from you!
August 8, 2010 - 7:31pmThis Comment