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I can't get "wet" when I get aroused. Is there something wrong?

By Anonymous July 28, 2011 - 10:43am
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It's been like this ever since I have been sexually active. I am 19, and have only been with two guys, and it's been this way with both of them. I am in a committed relationship right now and I can't get "wet" and its hard for me to orgasm. I was just wondering if someone could give me a little bit more information about this.

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I did some research based on your 2 symptoms; lack of vaginal lubrication and difficulty achieving an orgasm. I found some information on the website, SexualMed.org, that might be helpful to you.
You might have female arousal disorder. According to the website,
"Women with female sexual arousal disorder have a persistent or recurrent inability to attain, or maintain until completion of the sexual activity, an adequate lubrication swelling response of sexual excitement, that causes marked distress or interpersonal difficulty and is not better accounted for by such conditions as depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, etc, and is not due exclusively to the direct physiological effects of a drug of abuse, or a medication such as an anti-androgen, etc or a general medical condition."
You may also have a female sexual orgasmic disorder called anorgasmia.
According to the website. "Anorgasmia is a female sexual orgasmic disorder in which there is persistent and consistent inability to achieve orgasm after adequate stimulation that causes personal distress. Approximately 15% of women report difficulties with orgasm, and approximately 10% of women in the United States have never climaxed. Many women who orgasm regularly only have orgasm about half to three-quarters of the time. Anorgasmia is more common in women than in men. Anorgasmia is more common in younger women compared to younger men. Primary anorgasmia is used to define the condition of never having experienced orgasm while secondary anorgasmia is used to describe a woman who once experienced orgasm but lost the ability."
Diagnosis is made by first ruling out other possible medical or psychological causes. Next, blood tests are done to check hormone levels as well as ovarian, pituitary and thyroid functions.
Psychologic approaches, sex therapy and physiologic approaches which focus on ruling out medical causes are treatment options.

July 28, 2011 - 4:26pm
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