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I think I have a crush on someone who has Asperger's syndrome. Is there anything I should know?

By November 22, 2012 - 6:14pm
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I like a guy at my school, a lot. He seems very sweet. But I am emotionally driven, where he is cognitively driven. I just thought of him as socially awkward, but his roommate told me that he actually has Asperger syndrome. A guy who had this liked me before and he became very possessive, so I'm wondering if the whole "fixation" thing is something I need to watch out for. I myself have depression and Dissociative Identity Disorder. He has not actually told me yet that he has AS, and I'm not sure how to bring up that I know that he does. I'm wondering if there are certain ways I should interact with him, certain things I should generally know, about interacting with him that make it a little different than everyone else I've dated. I know he's more mature than the first one who liked me who had AS, and that they're different people, but I also don't know if there are things I need to be aware of.

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Hello GabbiRose,

My advice is to take it slow. Wait for him to share that he has Asperger's syndrome. Pressuring him to reveal this can be detrimental to any hopes of a friendship.

Common symptoms include:

Problems with social skills: Children with Asperger's syndrome generally have difficulty interacting with others and often are awkward in social situations. They generally do not make friends easily. They have difficulty initiating and maintaining conversation.

Eccentric or repetitive behaviors: Children with this condition may develop odd, repetitive movements, such as hand wringing or finger twisting.
Unusual preoccupations or rituals: A child with Asperger's syndrome may develop rituals that he or she refuses to alter, such as getting dressed in a specific order.

Communication difficulties: People with Asperger's syndrome may not make eye contact when speaking with someone. They may have trouble using facial expressions and gestures, and understanding body language. They also tend to have problems understanding language in context.

Limited range of interests: A child with Asperger's syndrome may develop an intense, almost obsessive, interest in a few areas, such as sports schedules, weather, or maps.

Coordination problems: The movements of children with Asperger's syndrome may seem clumsy or awkward.

Skilled or talented: Many children with Asperger's syndrome are exceptionally talented or skilled in a particular area, such as music or math.

I hope this is helpful,

November 22, 2012 - 6:30pm
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