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By October 4, 2013 - 7:35pm
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Hi, I have a kind of concern which is I know two people but I don't want to name names one is 24 years old and the other person is 57 years old. The person who is 24 years old is a female and she is very religious. Generally she has a very strong habit of doing clothing shopping. She doesn't do anything different and she is always shopping for clothing. I keep thinking it's become a habit for her and seems to me like she doesn't know what direction she should put her mind to. I want to know is this any kind of problem a person can have?

The other person who is 57 years old female she changed herself in a real awkward way and from the way she looks and talks she keep saying "I have bad thoughts, I keep having bad thinking". She is scared almost from everything. Awhile ago she watched some religious video and ever since she keep thinking weird stuff and putting her mind to be on the negative side. She keep saying something bad will happen. What ever I tell her nothing helps to get her mind to something more useful. I want to know does such thing mean something is wrong with the person mentally? Can the person be losing it?

It really bothers me like this and I'm afraid something strange comes up. What can I do or say to make this 57 year old woman to stop having these bad thoughts? Please let me know soon.

Thank You,

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Hi Melissa,

Thanks for your questions or should I say dilemma. I don't know how well you know these women but in both situations, this will be tough to manage to get so personal. Your 24 year old friend can have an addiction to shopping which is evidently an issue if she spends outside her means. It is called compulsive shopping and you can read more about it on our site here https://www.empowher.com/addictions/content/compulsive-shopping-closeted.... Now, Melissa can you help your friend? Sure but this can be an addiction and like any other addiction - it could be a problem talking to this person so be gentle if you do.


Secondly, your other friend in her 50s may or may not have a mental condition. Fear from everything could have been caused by whatever she watched on television. There are so many conspiracy theories out there that cause panic. If you think she is having issues, you could always suggest mental help to her in order to care for her fears. I am not sure what she watched or what she is in fear of but if you talk to her, you may figure out what she is fearing to offer her some sort of assistance.Talk to her and find out that cause of her fear, then come back to us as there are help groups for just about anything and we can help you find a solution.

Melissa, I hope this helps and while trying to find solutions for your friends, please come back to us and respond to this thread so we can provide possible solutions to both of your friends needs. Can you keep us posted?


Warm wishes,


October 5, 2013 - 5:51am
(reply to Anonymous)

Thank you for your reply. The kind of answer you're giving me is something I have to say who these people are. The 24 year old is my sister and the 57 year old person is my mother. The root of the problem is my father. Because of how they are I can't really handle it and I'm actually seeing a social worker because of all this. I'm going to see her this week and most of the time when I want to bring something up to talk about such thing I forget or I don't know how to say it.

As a sister such issue she has I don't really say anything because I can't handle her depend on matter.

As a mother I don't know what more to tell her to get these things out of her head. What do you think I should do or say? I want her to be back to the original way she was. She is not herself like this.

Please let me know soon.
Thank You,

October 6, 2013 - 8:15pm
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