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I'm having problems climaxing

By Anonymous August 23, 2011 - 5:15pm
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My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now (he's only the 2nd person I've ever had sex with) and we have sex like crazy all the time, but I have never had an orgasm with him and it has recently become a issue in our relationship. It doesn't bother me because I truly enjoy our sex, but it is weighing heavily on him. He confessed to me today that he masturbates before I comeover to his house so that he dosnt want to have sex with me. He feeLs that sex is bad for me and that he is no good in bed, which I assure you is not the case. It makes me feel bad and a tremendous amont of pressure to have n orgasm to please him, I'm not sure what the issue is. Is something wrong with me?

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I am concerned that stressing over this issue will only make matters worse. Have you thought about seeking professional help? If you really care about your current partner and want your current relationship to last, maybe you should seek evaluation and treatment of this problem.

August 24, 2011 - 5:05pm

Orgasmic dysfunction is a condition that is classified as primary or secondary. Primary orgasmic dysfunction is when a woman has never had an orgasm. Secondary orgasmic dysfunction is when a woman has had at least one orgasm in the past, but is currently unable to have one. Boredom, a history of sexual abuse, certain medications. hormonal disorders and lack of emotional closeness in the relationship are some contributing factors.
A complete medical history and physical exam may need to be done to determine the cause in your situation. Treatment can involve cognitive behavioral therapy and teaching orgasm by focusing on pleasurable stimulation. There is much more information on this condition on the website, Medline Plus. Here is the link to that article:


August 23, 2011 - 5:49pm
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Anonymous (reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

Thank you for your feedback I appreciate it and will look into some of your suggestions. I can achieve an orgasm on my own, I left that out of the original post on accident. I just can't seem to with my partner. My outlook on the situation is becoming more and more grim, I'm beginning to stress more and more over the issue as it is a constant topic in my relationship.

August 23, 2011 - 8:40pm
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