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hi,
I'm 27, sexualy active, had unprotected sex with my partner, i don't use any contraception. my cycle is normally quite short, around 21-23 days, especially in the summer when it's also quite light. Now my period was 8 days late, i've been experiencing very strange feelings, like bloated lower abdomen, sore breast, enlarged breast, fatigue, hypersensitivity to odours, mood swinging, weird cramping, heartburn, nausea, and also vomiting especially in the evening. i normally don't have nearly any PMS, i'm a very sporty person (i do any sport activity normally during my period without experiencing pain or anything), but these days my body just didn't feel like my body at all, i was literally dragging myself. this morning i woke up vomiting and took a pregnancy test (8 days late) and turned out negative, and then my period came but it's really different than normal, very dark and dense with lot of blood clots that i usually don't have. i also have some cramping and still vomit a bit.
should i go and see a doctor? could this be a possible miscariage? if so, is it possible to diagnose such a thing?
thank you for your help,
Mena
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Hi Christine,
August 24, 2010 - 10:47amThank you so much for you support, compassion and understanding, the stories i have read made me feel accepted, i feel less strange for suffering over that tiny thing that was there, invisible inside of me, and then gone.
I have tried to explain everything to my partner while it was happening, but we never really talked about it throughly. We discovered i was pregnant when i was already miscarrying so it didn't leave him any time to get used to the idea of us expecting a baby.. while for me.. well, my body "knew" it before i missed the period.
Now it is my moment to face it, and his one will come too, if it didn't already. I want to leave him all the time he needs to realize and accept it, but in the meantime i sometimes feel so alone, wanting to talk but not finding courage to speak up and to pronounce it out loud.
We haven't told what happened to anybody so this is actually the first time i decided to look for some kind of help, so thank you so much for being there for me. Makes me feel less lonely in all of this. And maybe one of these days i'll find the courage and the moment to talk to him to.
thanks again,
Mena
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Hi Mena,
July 7, 2010 - 8:47amGlad you decided to make an appointment...please come back and let us know what the doctor said if you are comfortable with sharing it.
Good luck!
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Hi Christine...
i feel like writing to you only now.. in the end it turned out it was a chemical pregnancy. i kind of totally deleted it out of my mind but now it's back and it's really confusing to cope with it sometimes.
I don't even know how to talk about it with my partner.
the thing that hurts me the most sometimes is that the people i tried to talk to were like: "oh but it was just a chemical pregnancy", like if i wasn't really pregnant and my loss was not real. But i still can't help thinking that i actually had a baby inside of me. This was the first conception of my life, or at least the first i was aware of.
It's been a week i decided to deal with this thing and i just can't snap out of it..
thank you for listening,
Mena
August 24, 2010 - 2:43amThis Comment
Hi Mena,
July 6, 2010 - 9:13amThanks for your question, and for being a part of the EmpowHer community. Unfortunately, symptoms of your period can be same or similar as those for pregnancy. Luckily, pregnancy tests are usually 99% effective, so if it says you're not pregnant, you're probably just late. I've had similar experience as you describe, and called my doctor. They told me to wait until next month, see how my period goes, I may have passed a cyst or something. If it's still "strange," to call them and set up an appointment. If you're concerned about what could be going on, do you want to give your doctor a call just to see what they think? Is there a reason you don't use contraception even though you are sexually active? If you don't want to get pregnant, are you open to using contraception?
Please let us know how you are and what your doctor says if you talk with them.
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Hi Christine,
thanks for your fast reply!
i decided to visit my doctor tomorrow, since the period is still weird, i am still bloated, with sore breasts and nausea and hypersensitive to odours.
I am having unprotected sex with my partner who i live with for over 2 years now, we're not actually trying to conceive but we're not keeping from it either, we have no rush in having a baby now but if it comes we'd both be really happy.
so it's really not a problem if i turn out to be pregnant, as i wrote before i was afraid i might be having a miscarriage and that would really make me feel bad, and my partner too.
but as if you say all this might still sound like an ongoing pregnancy neverminding the clotted period, then there's still some hope for a nice surprise tomorrow!
thank you Chris,
Mena
July 6, 2010 - 4:12pmThis Comment