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By Anonymous October 22, 2010 - 10:28pm
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Hey! I am 19 years old. Just three days ago, on Monday around 2-3 pm my bf and had unprotected sex. It wasn't planned out or anything, it just happened and I was kind of forced into doing it even though I didn't want to and it was nothing that I was ever expecting. He got me the Plan B pill yesterday (Wednesday) so i ate it around 1 pm. I have several questions; I am still likely to get pregnant even after taking it? The thing is it wasn't really what you would call as having sex, it was just the tip touching my part of the body but he does say that he had it in just an inch or two, and he did have pre-come, and it wasn't even in there for like more than 30 seconds would that still get me pregnant? I am really worried. Also, if the tip of his penis touches you, does that make you lose your virginity? I am very upset and i really need advice right now. Please help. Thank you.

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Your welcome, Anonymous. Please talk to someone at least on the hotline. They will be able to help you. We look forward to an update.

October 23, 2010 - 10:39am
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Hi again Anonymous,
Thank you for responding. You should be fine taking Plan B so I would not be too concerned about pregnancy. Plus, as Cary mentioned, pregnancy is possible with pre-ejaculate but it is small. When you took the Plan B, you certainly took the backup precaution.
There is one thing I want to mention to you is that none of this is YOUR fault. He made an extremely bad choice by forcing you to do something that you didn’t want to do. I think many of us have been in a similar situation sometime and were unsure if we should report it or not as a sexual assault. I think you are very smart to remove yourself from this situation completely. Talking about it to someone would be important too. Can you talk to your Mom about it? Is there anyone in your family that you feel comfortable with? There is also a hotline, where you can remain anonymous, where you can talk to people and they can help with options that you have about sexual assault. Here is a link for you to check out http://www.rainn.org/get-help/national-sexual-assault-hotline.
Please let me know if there is anything else we can help you with. Can you please keep us updated on what you do? You will certainly help other women in similar situations.
Best regards,

October 23, 2010 - 8:28am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Well, I’m not really close to anyone in my family and I don’t think I will ever be able to tell my mom about this, she’s going to completely lose trust in me and I can’t let that happen. But I was more concerned about getting pregnant and if I should go to the doctors just in case for a check up to be sure everything is alright. But thank you so much for the help I feel much better now, knowing I’m not the one who should be blamed for this. If I have further questions I will update you with it. Thank you again! :)

October 23, 2010 - 10:18am

Hi Anonymous

It is possible to get pregnant this way, although the odds are not high. However, the Plan B should prevent it.

I'm far more concerned about you being forced or coerced into sex. This is not okay. No one may touch your body without your permission, and forcing you into sex is sexual assault. I don't know exactly what transpired, but I hope you are not going to see this boyfriend any longer, because if he would do this once, he will do it again. It is dangerous to be with anyone who would force you to do something against your wishes.

If he truly forced you, you should contact your local authorities and press charges. At the very least, I hope you will break up with him. Please keep yourself safe and do not allow ANYONE else to decide what you do with YOUR body.

Thank you for writing and if we can help further, do not hesitate to ask.

October 23, 2010 - 7:28am
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Anonymous (reply to Cary Cook BSN RN)

Thank you for your response. And yes I did break up with him and I had told him as well that it was sexual assault but he denies in believing that. Also, I’m from a very strict and religious family, I haven’t told anyone about this situation and am very scared to refer it with anyone. He says he wouldn’t do it ever again and is asking for another chance but I told him the same, if he could do it once there are chances of him doing it again. And does that mean I lost virginity? Should I still consult a doctor for a pregnancy test or Plan B will be alright? This guy was after me for a year and he kind of was the reason for breaking me up with my first boyfriend who I was with for four years. And I just regret everything and feel like I’m the reason for everything that’s happened. I feel used. I feel like I was being played around all this time. I don’t know what to do.

October 23, 2010 - 7:50am
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