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By Anonymous June 12, 2011 - 9:57pm
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What can i do?My Girlfriend only had sex once after she was disvirgin by her ex,so now that i met her,whenever we want to make love,she's feeling the pain and we cant make love because she cry and scream,seems her vagina is still tight and she cant bear the pain.I've never disvirgin a girl so i dont know how to do it without her screaming.I only do it normally like i do and she said the pain is way too much for her to enjoy it.We both want to make love but these pain is affecting our sexual life and i love sex and dont want to cheat on her...what can i do?

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Hi Anon,

Has your girlfriend considered seeing a doctor about the pain she is feeling? Honestly, losing your virginity is slightly uncomfortable but it should not be unbearably painful especially if your girlfriend has already had sex once before. You may want to make that attempt by practicing sex more, being gentle, using lubricants if that helps. If she still feels that the pain is terrible, then she may want to be seen by a doctor to determine if she may have something called Vaginismus which can make sex very, very painful.

All the best,


June 13, 2011 - 6:47am
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