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Why can't I lubricate?

By October 22, 2012 - 6:56pm
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I'm only 18 years old. I had a boyfriend for the last year and a little ago we had intercourse for the first time. I love him and feel really atracted to him. We've always been really open-minded and were never afraid to speak about our desires. But when it got the time, i was completely dry. It hurt me a lot and i asked him to slow down. Was really embarassing and sad. I couldn't help crying when i left. I don't wanna screw our relationship. He's respectful, loving, caring. I trust him and love him a lot, and i'm really afraid that i may repeat my mom's story: She couldn't lubricate eather. I have to add that i was a virgin, which scares me even more. I don't have anyone to talk about this objectively, and i'd love to have a response about how i could make this better.
Desperately, Me.

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Hi Hapyhs,

Thanks for your post! We have answered a question very similar to yours here: https://www.empowher.com/community/ask/vaginal-dryness-cant-get-wet-and-im-only-26

Hope this helps,


October 23, 2012 - 7:56am
(reply to Rosa Cabrera RN)

Hey, Rosa, thank you. Actually, that was the comment that brought me here!!

October 23, 2012 - 7:56pm
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