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Why is my boyfriend showing a lack of interest?

By Anonymous October 7, 2011 - 8:57am
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My boyfriend and i have been together since high school and are currently in our 3rd year of college. We know we have plans on being together after college and starting a family. However i've been feeling a major disconnect for the last several months and i don't understand where it came from. Although we don't live together we basically spend every night together either at his apartment or mine but he no longer wants to come to my apartment because it is "too far" and i can "just come to his." when i am there, he barely pays attention to me, most times we will be in separate rooms. he tells me i act crazy because i can't get attention but i honestly think I'm not asking for MUCH. we used to act so in love, he was always ready to kiss me if i turned to him, no longer wants to hold me at night (which was a nightly ritual), and no longer has the same sex drive (which is most shocking to me because we used to have passionate sex on a daily basis). the only time i get the same sense of affection is when i'm gone for a weekend or few day period when all he wants to do is tell me how much he wants to be with me and can't wait to have sex. i come back, we will be fine for a day then it is back to the same old attitude. I love him and i know he loves me but i can't deal with the constant up and downs of emotion.

I sometimes think it is my fault because i am under a lot of stress with my current living and school situation and i don't think he wants to deal with my stress or emotions. i feel like he needs time apart but it would be VERY difficult for both of us. he says nothing has changed but it's obvious that it has, our friends notice it too but i just don't know what to say, i laugh it off like we're fine.
i need something to change because my emotions have been thrown around and i can't deal. how do you take your emotions out of a situation and do whats best for you?

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