Even when coaching a child, friend or employee through the repercussions of a mistake, the use a positive tone creates better memories of the event than using a negative tone.(3)
Improved cognition equates with improved performance with kids and adults — your kids do their chores, your team meets deadlines. In contrast, negative feedback by leaders to employees has been found more likely to induce anxiety, guilt and fear, according to Belle Beth Cooper at Fast Company.(3)
In a study on the neural responses to maternal criticism, teenagers listened to tapes of maternal criticism (i.e., teenage torture) while undergoing brain scans. Researchers found that their mothers’ criticism negatively affected the teenagers’ cognitive control (regulation of emotions) and social cognition (processing of social information).(4)
The teens were more emotionally reactive, just less able to control it — teen throws dish against wall — and less likely to remember what you asked in the first place.
Kenneth Barish, PhD wrote on Psychologytoday.com, “Appreciation is the antidote for resentment.”(1) Appreciation, encouragement and working through failure with an eye towards a successful, attainable future can cure the brittleness and anger born of excessive criticism.
Find the good and praise it. Give a kind word. Be well.
Reviewed February 24, 2016
by Michele Blacksberg RN
Edited by Jody Smith
1) Positiveness Part II: Encouragement, Appreciation, and Pride. PsychologyToday.com. Retrieved February 22, 2016.
2) The Psychology of Encouragement: Theory, Research, and Applications. APA.org. Retrieved February 22, 2016.
http://www.apa.org/education/ce/psychology-encouragement.pdf p. 182, 186
3) Why Positive Encouragement Works Better Than Criticism. FastCompany.com. Retrieved February 22, 2016.
4) Neural responses to maternal criticism in healthy youth. NCBI.gov. Retrieved February 22, 2016.