There are many reasons for a marriage to end. One common cause is financial problems between couples. Being poor or rich isn’t always the issue — it’s financial compatibility that causes the trouble.
Maybe one partner spends too much, and the other is too cheap and won’t spend anything at all. Maybe both are spenders when they don’t have the resources to enjoy that luxury.
As much as sexual infidelity can tear a couple apart, financial infidelity can too. Both employ lies, hidden activities and disloyal acts, and cheating with money is a surefire way to test the trust a marriage depends on.
With the holiday season ending, the month of January is often the start of large bills rolling in, and the beginning of a financial hangover.
The thrill of the purchase is over and the reality sets in that again, this year, too much has been spent in the heat of the moment and there simply isn’t enough money to pay off what was bought on credit.
Sure, it can be cute to buy a new dress and pretend you got it in the sales last year when your husband asks you if it’s new. Or when he purchases another man “toy” that he swears he needs and will do great things for the house/car/garden.
But when these kinds of purchases start veering towards big ticket items and compulsive shopping, spouses can end up lying about costs, hiding purchases and receipts, and even taking out new credit cards without their partner’s knowledge or forging their signatures.
In most cases, the clock is ticking on how long a spouse can get away with this kind of financial cheating. They get caught when credit reports are checked, when bills are found stashed away somewhere, or when creditors start calling for past due payments the other spouse knows nothing about.
Financial infidelity can hurt like romantic infidelity, and it can feel similar. Affected spouses know that they've been seriously let down.
They know that words have been spoken and actions have been done behind their backs, and that they have deliberately been lied to. This marks a huge display of cheating and disloyalty that can’t always be forgiven.