Coping with the loss of a family member.
The holidays are difficult to cope with at times. I know this year was particularly difficult for me because we chose not to cook a turkey for Thanksgiving. This was our third Thanksgiving since Mom lost her battle to breast cancer in January of 2009. Mom was the thread that held the family together and she was a phenomenal cook.
As a family, we agreed to celebrate the holiday on Saturday instead of Thursday, allowing everyone ample time to meet up in the Bay Area. I agreed to this arrangement, not knowing how upset I would be Thursday. When I awoke Thursday and walked into my kitchen, I had a slight breakdown knowing the kitchen was not going to smell like turkey. Even worse was knowing Mom's kitchen wasn't going to be smelling like turkey either. AND...we had no plans to do anything as a family.
After a moment of self pity, I called my dad and brother, (we all live in the same town), and demanded we spend the day together. Without a moment of hesitation, we devised a menu as a family. Dad and I headed to the store for some last minute shopping and created a delicious meal. We didn't have time to roast a turkey, but being together was enough for me.
I am finally able, after three years, to reach out and ask for help. Who are you missing during the holidays and how are you coping?