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Common Rape Myths Debunked

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Silvia Dutchevici, the president and founder of the Critical Therapy Center, shared these five rape myths via email:

1) “I think one of the biggest myths is that someone was led on sexually, that being naked or sexual with someone automatically means you want it to go further towards intercourse, therefore it's should not be rape.”

2) “Another myth is that spouses cannot rape each other.”

3) and 4) “A big one is that men cannot be raped, or that women who dress or talk a certain way are asking for it.”

5) “What is interesting about these myths is that not only are they untrue,
but they subconsciously offer some of us some comfort in believing that
we can have control over being raped, meaning that if we do not do any
of those things (dress a certain way, engage in flirting, etc.) we will
be safe. Of course that is a myth.”

Jonathan Miller, a therapist, said in an email that there are two main rape myths:

1) “The biggest myth is that there are more false accusations of rape than of other crimes. You'll see statistics that claim there are - those are a mishmash of numbers from different police districts with different definitions of 'unfounded'.

“Often, a rape accusation will be marked 'unfounded' because the victim can't provide witnesses, the police officer can't find bruises, or the investigators decide the victim isn't hysterical enough. (The accuser has just been brutally assaulted. Is it a surprise they might shocked into emotional numbness?)”

2) “The second biggest myth is that women want to be raped. Skimpy clothes and provocative dress doesn't mean a woman wants to be raped. Being in an unsafe place doesn't mean she wants to be raped. Even erotic fantasies about rape doesn't mean she wants to be raped.”

“Marta Meana, at the University of Nevada, hypothesizes rape fantasies are sexy, because it means the fantasizer is so desirable the man can't help himself. Bivona and Critelli, at the University of Texas, added that some women may have these fantasies because it's a dream of having her needs met without being called a slut, or being able to focus on her own pleasure without worrying about satisfying her partner.”

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