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How to Get Over Depression After a Breakup

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“They want to take all the memories of that person and treasure them because that was a period of their lives and they can still move on,” Heitler said.

One thing to keep in mind is that thoughts of an ex can interfere with your life if you let them.

“Each time those thoughts come up, distract yourself,” Heitler said. “You can’t block them from coming up, but you can stop yourself from dwelling on that person. What you need to do is weaken the ties with them, so you don’t want to be dwelling on them because that reinforces the ties.”

One of the best ways to move on is to “build something new,” she said.

“Build new friendships, take on new activities, get a new puppy, take a trip,” Heitler said. “New is good.”

In a Psychology Today blog, the author suggested five ways to get over a breakup: sharing your feelings with others, meditate, sleep, exercise and have “imaginary conversations with the ex.”

A website, www.ahealthyme.com, which is part of the Blue Cross Blue Shield of Massachusetts, said that taking care of yourself is important, including watching your diet and maintaining a normal energy level. Volunteering, taking a class or doing something creative (music, art, writing, etc.) can all help you improve yourself and meet new friends.

Sources:
Heitler’s websites: www.Therapyhelp.com, www.Po2.com
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/finding-true-love/200909/relationship-advice-breaking-hurts-real-and-how-recover-faster
http://www.ahealthyme.com/topic/depbreakup

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first of all how can you get over in a week with the suffering and torture of a gutless person who has continued to use you and lie to you and keep coming in and out of your life because they are confused but now this is all made yourself so crazy you try to kill yourself you act a fool you blame yourself beat up yourself absolutely loose your mind because that is what im having to live all those thoughts and images and the words he has said to me i cannot get them out of me . i have no friends i have no one ive done what i should as a woman for him and our family im 50 years old now half my life i a complete waste and you think a week is going to help.. not hardly

April 5, 2018 - 7:03am
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A week!!!! Ridiculous. Whoever wrote that is missing a few reality screws.

November 2, 2015 - 10:28pm
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Anonymous

even my gal friend left me today it self for somebody else,,, so be cool dont think much abt them who move from ur life ,,, mine is 9years love

March 27, 2015 - 4:10am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

superb bro!! actually this whole blog couldn't give me as much courage as your one line have given........... thnx bro... i was in a relationship for last 4 year and she left me without giving any reason so i was in depression, but your comment just evinced a smile on my face..... thnx bro!!

February 24, 2016 - 10:54am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

So sorry to hear about it. Hope you moved on well.

June 25, 2015 - 3:35am
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Anonymous

I stopped reading after it said it should only take a week to get over a break up. Unless you had like two dates, it will take a lot longer than a week to "get over" the relationship. Who wrote this??!

February 23, 2015 - 12:52pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Yes, I stopped too. That only tells me this person has ZERO experience or is an unapologetic narcissist. Ridiculous.

September 4, 2015 - 8:27pm
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A week to "get over" a breakup? You have no idea what you are talking about.

February 6, 2015 - 10:27pm
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hi... I lost my boyfriend 1 & half months ago.My family & his family had fight and they ask him to chose between me & his family.He choosed his family.A 7 yrs relationship just ended.He cried on phone in the starting of our breakup.After 15 days he found a new love a started talking to her till 2 in the night.If i am on call waiting he didnt receive my call.He changed his number.Now i am in mental depression.I cant sleep at night properly, just 2 hours max and in that time too i get bad dreams about him.I am not feeling to eat or do any activity.Let my left job too.I tried to commit suicide and was unsuccessful in that.All i can think is i dont want to live.Just want to end my life.Its very frustrating that now he dont care about me and not even he call me.Yes i want him back in my life because i cant live without him but dont know how.. My blood pressure is always low now a days and head pains.I am also suffering from cramps in all parts of my body.As i think that he is happy with that married woman,talking to her all this BP,head pains and cramps starts.I dont know y he did this to me?I was with him for 7 years in his bad time and he just left me blaming everything on me and my family.I didnt know that he had this status money thing in his head like his family.

October 9, 2013 - 9:20pm
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hi... I lost my boyfriend 1 & half months ago.My family & his family had fight and they ask him to chose between me & his family.He choosed his family.A 7 yrs relationship just ended.He cried & on phone in the starting of our breakup.After 15 days he found a new love a started talking to her till 2 in the night.If i am on call waiting he didnt receive my call.He changed his number.Now i am in mental depression.I cant sleep at night properly, just 2 hours max and in that time too i get bad dreams about him.I am not feeling to eat or do any activity.Let my left job too.I tried to commit suicide and was unsuccessful in that.All i can think is i dont want to live.Just want to end my life.Its very frustrating that now he dont care about me and not even he call me.Yes i want him back in my life because i cant live without him but dont know how..

October 9, 2013 - 9:11pm
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